IxTJ and ExFP are the only options I'm looking at, since my middle functions are definitely Fi-Te or Te-Fi. I have cognitive dissonance when making decisions, which probably means I have a strong tertiary and it's interfering with my auxiliary. Every thought seems to be a tug of war. It has been causing me anxiety. I recently asked my parents about my childhood to try and determine which J function developed first, but I got no information of value. (They just said I didn't crawl, and liked to sit in one place and stare at things, oh and I would come up with strange explanations for everyday phenomena, and I was uncoordinated they say.) My own memories are too blurred and they aren't stored in chronological order so I have no idea how old I was at each memory. And I have had this cognitive dissonance for a long time now... I'm 20, and I've had it for at least 7 years, and I don't remember whether I was more Fi or more Te before that.
Anyway, it's narrowed down to ISTJ and ESFP because I don't understand what Ne and Ni are, which probably means I don't use them. The more I read about Se and Si the more they blur into one. So I'm going to ask that no one post function descriptions unless you think I would not have seen them before, i.e. they are not readily available on the internet. Is it possible to ask me some open-ended questions, and guess my type using the answers? (If not, that's fine, and in that case please post descriptions!)
Also, my enneagram type is listed as 5w6, but it could just as easily be 7w8 or 7w6, (so don't use that as the basis for MBTI type).