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    Default 3w4, 4w3, 6w7 or 7w6?

    Firstly, before I give any information or answer questions, what are the fundamental differences between them? I just cannot figure out my head and heart fix, as well as my core. I have been stuck with these since forever. I only know my gut type is 9w1 and its the last one I use.
    Many thanks, friends!

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    could you tell us a little more about yourself?
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    @Elfboy
    (Oh, and I can't pick between So/Sx or Sx/So, so thanks in advance to whoever helps me identify my variant)
    Ever since I was born I was meant to be "great." It's my family, our history, yadda yadda yadda. But as a little baby you don't realize these things, all I wanted was to perform. I loved being the first-born of my generation, and I relished in the praise, attention, and love I received. I was so used to getting whatever I wanted, or just being the center of attention, that as I got older it felt strange not always being thrusted into the limelight. Unfortunately, all kids go through a "chubby stage" and when that happened for me, it took my confidence and my slimness with it. I was made fun of for my appearance (acne, weight, the whole package) and I started to realize that I was "flawed." Before you start to think that was because of development--I was always a tad bit insecure. Whenever I started something new I was afraid I'd mess up. Like my father, I need to perfect my skills INDEPENDENTLY, before I could ever dream of performing them in front of a live audience (See? It's sly! You make it look like you're just good at anything--but you merely practice in private so nobody sees you fail :p).
    Anyway, even as a youngster I'd sit in the school's bathroom and think "I'm always misunderstood. That's why my friends get mad at me." Yes, I loved being with people but I also felt like being around them was like trying to be someone I wasn't because I was just TOO DIFFERENT. And the more I felt alienated and under appreciated, the more I tried to win other people's respect, praise, and admiration. I'd sneak in my accomplishments here and there.
    As time went on, I became very focussed on my appearance. I had lost the weight, guys started to "notice me," it was a nice transition! Still, I felt nobody really knew what I was going through internally. I longed to make a stamp on this world, to be an icon. I wanted to be recognized. So whenever somebody else had that attention that I thought I deserved--the little green monster took over. I hate being jealous, it tears me apart. It tears my friendships apart! And I find that I'm being conflicted with vanity and insecurity. One minute I feel like I'm the greatest and can do anything--the next I'm this sore loser who should just die.
    I feel like the above reflects a lot of 3 and 4 traits. Here's why I identify with 6 and 7:
    I was extremely attached to my mother as a child. When I started hitting the age where I could be left home alone and supervise my little brother (I was still fairly young), I would FLIP OUT. If she didn't call back, or she didn't come home at exactly 6:30, I would assume the (imaginative) worst. And my insecurities have come a long way with me, especially in the social realm. I find that if anyone harms my "self-image," I have to eliminate them from the social hierarchy--you know, asking around to see how "popular" they are--stuff that only happens to me when I'm very paranoid. And I guess the 7 traits would be that I need to be stimulated because if not, I go back to thinking too much and getting depressed about how I'm not doing anything at the moment, other people have more freedom than I do, and I start to hate myself. I'm very conflicting when it comes to emotions. Sometimes I just want to leave the situation and cry it all out. And other times I try to avoid my feelings (especially to keep a good front when people are present) by distracting myself.
    Any other questions? If this was not thorough enough I'd be happy to answer

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    my best guess is 3w4 so/sx your tritype sounds like 3-7-1 but I could be wrong about this
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    Another thing I'd like to say is that why I can't decide between SO/SX and SX/SO is because I do tend to seek out intense situations, or situations regarding a lot of stimulation--but I'm hardly aggressive.

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    :\ I noticed that I share a lot of qualities of the 4, but I have the motivations of the 3...So would that mean that the 4 is a wing or the core?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boo View Post
    :\ I noticed that I share a lot of qualities of the 4, but I have the motivations of the 3...So would that mean that the 4 is a wing or the core?
    that means you're probably a 3w4, but of course, I don't know you well enough to say so with high probability
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elfboy View Post
    that means you're probably a 3w4, but of course, I don't know you well enough to say so with high probability
    :| I'm constantly alternating between 3w4 and 4w3 because sometimes I think that I'm a total 3 since I care a lot about my image and validation from others, but then I switch to 4 when I realize I'm not that much of a work-a-holic and I'm more emotional.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boo View Post
    Firstly, before I give any information or answer questions, what are the fundamental differences between them? I just cannot figure out my head and heart fix, as well as my core. I have been stuck with these since forever. I only know my gut type is 9w1 and its the last one I use.
    Many thanks, friends!


    I AM RIGHT THERE WITH YOU. ENFP 9w1 gut last sp last and can't decide between 3w4, 4w3, 6w7. i'm pretty certain i'm 6w7 head type. i relate with worrying the worst about your mom... my mom would be late to pick me up from school sometimes and i would be sooo worried!

    anyway i'm sorry that's not particularly helpful. :/ but it's sort of nice to find someone so alike

    as far as i understand it...

    core motivation -> excessive behavior

    7 - aversion to deprivation -> excessive experiencing and/or acquiring
    6 - aversion to fear -> excessive bonding and confronting
    4 - aversion to insignificance -> excessive individualism
    3 - aversion to worthlessness -> excessive pursuit of accomplishment

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    well i'm a 7w6 if it helps and i don't identify with much of what you said...my guess would be 3w4.
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