Ok, so I posted a thread wondering what type I am a long while ago. I wasn't sure between INFJ, INTJ, ISFJ or INFP, I think? I can't remember now. Anyway, now that I know more about typing I feel pretty secure in saying that I am INXJ. For the past year I was convinced that I was INFJ. But... I don't know. Lately I have been second guessing that. Here are some basic things about myself and please let me know any opinions on the subject!
I have been a server for the last five years. At work I usually keep to myself because it seems as though work goes smoother the less ties to coworkers that I have. As a result, people at work typically see me as the quiet, shy, nice girl. It makes sense to me to act passive at work so that I can avoid confrontation and extra obligations (workers who are viewed as aggressive and take charge usually end up taking the most difficult tables and are the ones who are called on by the managers to do something that nobody else wants to do). When someone says a dirty joke, they apologize to me as though they shouldn't have said something like that in front of my delicate ears. I guess I give off the naive, innocent vibe. So to me this would seem like I give off an F vibe, yeah? But this is only at work.
With my family, my mother says I am definitely a green (for those of you familiar with the true colors test). She says that I always think I am right and display impatience when others do not follow my train of thought. I am stubborn in my views and value intelligence in myself and others above all else. I am not a very sensitive person. My family never sees me cry and I become uncomfortable when others show extreme emotion.
In social settings I am not an approachable person. My boyfriend says that I can be intimidating to others who I do not know well. If someone tries to fuck with me in the slightest I catch on and put a stop to it. I do not care much in meeting new people because I usually cannot find a purpose for getting to know somebody new. I already have a wonderful family, boyfriend, and a group of girlfriends who I have known since high school and before. Therefore, meeting new people seems pointless. I do not, however, like confrontation or try to be off putting toward people. I do my best to be nice while also trying to hold back a bit so that people do not become too friendly.
Are there any areas I should touch on to give more insight into my personality? Even if I didn't give enough information on what type I am, I would appreciate any tips on differentiating between an INTJ and an INFJ. Thanks a lot in advance!