I have gone from one dilemma to another.
As I've gotten to study MBTI more and from reading Keirsey's book, I feel that I am definitely an Idealist of some sort. I definitely have strong emotions but I never realized how much deeper they are for an NF than other temperaments. I care a lot of other people. I want them to be happy and am always willing to give a helping hand to those I care about. I also have the tendency to really care about what other people think of me. Ideally, I desire to be liked by everyone. If I suspect that someone doesn't like me, it makes me depressed even though I know that I have many awesome friends and then will try too hard to get those people to like me but prejudice is a horrible monster that affects a lot of people.
I related to the ENFP profile even more than I could to the INTP profile. However, Keirsey doesn't differentiate between Introversion/Extraversion so much, thinking that it isn't important. Ideally, I would say that I am ambiverted. However, I am unsure. I am definitely energized by other people, but only those I really like. I can be social and can talk off the cuff with ease. If I am alone for too long, I get depressed. However, I often like my alone time to read, write stories, and post on forums such as this. I often need external validation to gain motivation to do things. I could relate to what an ENTP said about himself in a personality type book that he has many ideas but needs to talk about them with others to figure out which ones are worth working on and which ones aren't.
Finally, I don't think that Introversion/Extraversion really makes a strong correlation with assertiveness. One of my best friends is an INTJ who I would say is very assertive socially, but he also definitely needs and enjoys his alone time and chooses his friends wisely. He even has the tendency to interrupt others in group conversations when (I guess) he feels what he has to say is more important. In one-to-one conversations, he often does more of the talking, even if I am the more 'extraverted' one of the duo. TJ's tend to more dominant than FP's though.
How do Extraverted iNtuitives deal with relationships? I find that I have a small group of close friends and a large group of acquaintances. I choose my close friends based on the conversations I can have with them.
I have never been afraid of meeting new people and my Introverted friends are amazed by my ability to just start a conversation so eagerly with people I never met before. I tend to handle myself well and am able to find common ground with people I meet. I often get people talking about themselves a lot, many I even mistook to be Extraverts but learned later on that they are definite Introverts. I am just 'easy to talk to'. I thought it was partially because I was so unassertive myself but learned that it may actually have been for the reverse that I was able to get others to get talking, since I often find myself asking them some interesting and thought-provoking questions.
I have talked to someone about this and that person said that my 'introversion' is simply rooted from some insecurities I have about myself and that it is more destructive for me than it would be for a typical introvert and that is why I can seem withdrawn at times, that I am likely an extravert and not an introvert.
What would you think from what I wrote?
If anyone has any questions, feel free to ask.