Hey everyone. I can't figure out if I'm ENFP or INFP, and it's driving me mad!
I know I know, people place way too much importance on type and I realize that type theory is just that, a theory. But I still want to get as close to an accurate type as possible. I've read many links about the differences on E's and I's, how they get energy, etc. I know that E's are suppose to engage more in the external world, and I's on inner values and concepts. Perhaps my perception of self is just very skewed. For a long time I typed as ENFP, very certain of the NFP, always moderately extroverted. But then I had to jump into socionics.. (still totally confused on that) and when I take a functions test I get INFP. I realize the two systems are very different. But I also read that Extroverts in MBTI remain extroverts in socionics. So how can I be an INFP? Reasons I don't think I'm an INFP? Well, I've made friends easily and rappidly in school and work. I am outspoken. I have an opinion on just about everything and just LOVE to share it. (Gross i know.) I've heard that INFP's generally give a very calm, relaxed demeanor, and can't really say that I do. I've read that INFP's dodge confrontation, and I readily welcome it when I feel there is a problem. I CAN'T STAND being in an environment with tension, like unspoken words.. its absolutely unbearable. Better to just get it out there and say what you have to so you can work through it. I am definately not a push over, and get pretty prickly when I feel stepped on. I am often the "speaker" in a group that has problems with management or other situations.. I am not afraid to speak up. So why do I question my ENFP-ness? Because I've read that ENFP's are more likely to naturally trust people from the get go. I don't. Trust is earned with me. I will give everyone a chance, but I only let them get so close to me through careful observation and decision that there worthy. Lets reword that, until i think they wouldnt "hurt me." I have jumped into love relationships.. but It takes me a LOOOONG time to decide to love someone. I've also heard that ENFP's are not likely to criticize, and I am terribly guilty of this. I stay far far away from personal attacks on charactor, but I will attack or criticize behaviors and beliefs. I love to debate and discuss politics, religion, fake people, insincerity, basically anything that doesnt fall within my guidelines of values. I know, it sounds really bad. Maybe I'm a jerk. But keep in mind that though I may not agree with others politics or religious ideas etc.. I would NEVER let that come between being friends. That in itself would go against my value of the bigger picture. I've heard that ENFP's have a really high energy, I DO tend to get more energized in groups.. but generally I am an average energy level. I DO initiate conversations. I DO introduce myself to new people at parties. I DO quickly and easily become a part of a group. I would rather share things on my mind than keep it to myself. Any of you have a general feel to my personality type? I think that in the last few years I've come alot closer to the Thinking/Feeling preference as well. I will always be a feeler, but I've began to understand the importance of being more objective, and logically thinking though my stance on various issues. Anyhow, if any of you get a general "feel" for anything I've written, please tell me what you think. Like I said, not fully knowing my type is driving me BATTY!
Much LOVE =)