Nine With an 8 Wing
Awakened Nines with an 8 wing have a modest, steady, receptive core. They are charged by the dynamism of 8 - when focused on goals they often have great force of will. Get things done, make good leaders. May have an animal magnetism of which they are only partly aware. Can seem highly centered, take what they do seriously but remain unimpressed with themselves. 8 wing can bring a strong internal sense of direction. Relatively fearless and highly intuitive. Generally not intellectual unless they have it in their background. When more entranced, they manifest the contradictions of the two styles expressing them in sequence. Could be passively amiable like a Nine and then turn horribly blunt like an 8. One moment they are opinionated or nasty, next moment kindly and supportive. Often don't hear their voices when angry. Can have a sharp, grating edge. May be slow to anger and then explode. Or angry but don't know it; may confuse being assertive with being rude. Placidly callous - both styles support numbness. Tactless and indiscriminate and indiscreet. May be unwittingly disloyal, spilling everyone's secrets. Sexual confusion, sometimes they are driven by lust.
Six With a 5 Wing
Sixes with a 5 wing are generally introverted and somewhat intellectual. When healthy, they often have many realms of interest as well as surprising competencies and skills. May have an original and idiosyncratic point of view. Can be bookish; some are interested in history or feel rooted in the past or related to a long tradition. Also good at predicting the future. May test potential friends for a long time but once you're in, you're in - a friend for life. When more entranced, they may project a willed remoteness. Have a "tip of the iceberg" quality - they show little but you sense hidden dimensions, intensity and activity. Tension between needing to be seen and withdrawing for protection. Might act arrogant or cryptic or cynical when afraid. When phobic, can be diplomatic and say things without saying them. Entranced counterphobics are either cool and loners or argumentative, tending towards violence. Can brood over injustices to them, entertain conspiracy theories, spend time alone building cases. Paranoia in private. May like secretive behind-the-scenes group activity. Sneaky vengeance, passive/aggressive toward others, self-attacking and self-destructive at home.
How Nines See Sixes
Relationships with Sixes can be very positive for Nines. Sixes are quite aware of their own boundaries, so they tend not to be a threat to the Nine's fear of losing a sense of self. In spite of Nines' defensiveness and criticisms when they feel discounted, they want very much to connect with others and be appreciated for their ideas. Sixes, with their personal radar, can be very sensitive to a Nine's needs. When this pair relates with mutuality, Nines become more known to themselves because of Sixes' honesty. Sixes typically balance Nines' more laid-back style with a great deal of energy. They're usually more spontaneous and open with their feelings than Nines, so the Nine is less likely to withdraw from potential conflict. This is a partnership where fighting can be fun. In general, the Six's activeness stimulates action in the Nine. The Nine often admires the Six's willingness to "name" things, to state the obvious when others are unwilling to risk confrontation. Nines can become unhappy with surrounding circumstances or people in their environment and not know how to express this directly, whereas Sixes are more likely to express their feelings. In fact, the Six's tendency towards self-disclosure is a wonderful model for the Nine. This is particularly true when the two have a conflict: the Nine can learn from the Six's active willingness to take some risks and resolve their differences.
How Sixes See Nines
Sixes seek the serenity and calm of Nines; when they learn to be more centered and self-referencing, they reduce self-questioning and promote peacefulness. So the Six/Nine partnership will feel emotionally complementary. Nines will reflect thoroughly on an issue, reviewing many perspectives before acting (if at all); Sixes are more likely to act without a great deal of reflection. Merging their strengths can lead to a partnership characterized by reflective action. Out of their power-under perspective, Sixes are on the alert for a "take-over," and tend to feel safe with Nines, who are not overtly interested in holding power. Because Nines are calm and reassuring, they provide a model for living with more ease and tend to balance the Six's emotional intensity. Seeing the Nine as a "safe harbor," Sixes trust that they're liked and allow their deeper selves to show. This can strengthen their belief in themselves and help them be their best selves, to dream bigger dreams. When things are going well, Nines are generous with their praise of the Six's good qualities and contributions, which makes the Six less likely to look for a hidden agenda and less defensive about discussing areas for improvement or greater self-awareness. Also, Nines can help Sixes to be less challenging or doubting of others, by offering alternative ways to view a situation.