so I have difficulty finding my type and I tend to become obsessive with these things. I have a pretty strong NT, borderline P/J, but I think I'm more P than J. (feel free to suggest I am an S or a J, though, although I think I'm pretty set on the T). I think I've narrowed it down to a confusion between I and E.
THIS WILL BE LONG AND BORING. Sorry guys
I'm very hard to get to know, at least to really get to know. I guess once people break my "friendly" shell they realize I'm kind of "mysterious". I've been described as "picky" with people, and unless I show interest in somebody and look for them, they tend to not become close to me. That said, there can be quite a few people I become interested in and "pursue". I have a large circle of friends, many whom I consider close, some more than others. But, I prefer meeting with all these acquaintances on one-on-one to get to know them and talk to them personally.
This might be weird, though, but I don't like being with my close friends by themselves... I get bored of it sometimes, unless it is to listen to their problems and help them out (I'm an awesome listener, and I love to play therapist and give advice). I prefer having a group of close friends, yet meeting acquaintances on their own. This has led to a complicated social situation in which I have a lot of friends that are very different and don't really get along together, while still maintaining a core group of 3-4 friends that I am always with.
When I am in a comfortable environment (small group, small class, or my university, for example), I am usually pretty loud and have no problem meeting people, I say what I think usually and like to meet all kinds of people. In class I can be sort of jokester-y and loud. In larger classes, though, I tend to speak with a more monotonous voice and usually just point out technical things instead of making arguments.
People who are my acquaintances tend to think I am an extrovert, unless they met me in an environment that was completely new to me (at my university, I'm usually regarded as an extrovert), although people who have known me for a very long time tend to think I'm more I (I was a bit antisocial and shy in middle school and the beginning of high school).
All that said, I love going out, I'm very adventurous and I like taking risks and trying new things. I am very, very humorous. If there's any plan to go out, I'm always in. I'm also not afraid of making a complete fool of myself in public by being ridiculous. I am terribly bored by small talk, so when I meet people I tend to put a topic that interests me, which can range from TV shows/movies to basically any random funny thing that happened to me in the day.
I think I might be a borderline I, or a shy extrovert? I'm also confused because ENTPs tend to be mistyped as I sometimes, while INTPs tend to be one of the more reclusive types, and I definitely do not regard myself as reclusive...at all!
Sorry for rambling. Hope this wasn't too boring. Feel free to ask questions so I can be more precise/clear about things. Thanks
EDIT: To make things even more confusing, I've been testing 9w8 sexual on my enneagram lately. I'm really easygoing if that makes sense?