Some info about her:
- She's INFJ. Very, VERY INFJ. She's told me that she agrees with literally every sentence of every INFJ description she's read. But if she were another type, it would be ISFJ - she sometimes takes things too literally, she's an upstanding citizen, and she HATES philosophical discussion, because she doesn't think it "has a point".
- Based on what she's told me about what she was like as a kid, she definitely sounded like a 4 (lots of emo-ish, lonely artist, "No one understands", marching to a different drummer type stuff), but she doesn't strike me as that now.
- She's incredibly type-A, and can sometimes be pretty bossy (but only towards friends and family); she often doesn't trust anyone except herself to do things, but then she'll make resentful comments at family members, like "Apparently no one cares about getting this done except for me". She puts so much pressure on herself, with stuff like that, that it's as if she intentionally puts the whole world on her shoulders because she doesn't trust Atlas to do as good a job holding it up.
- She worries a lot, and she's a big-time perfectionist (I think she scored 100% J).
- You would never guess that she's an introvert, until she tells you that crowds make her anxious. She's very, very loud when you get to know her. I'd say that she talks more than I do when we're chatting.
- Often, when I get really upset about something and vent to her, she'll feel so much empathy or get such strong bad vibes or something that she'll actually get upset with me and tell me to calm down, instead of being reassuring. She doesn't do this with anyone else that I know of (so maybe it isn't relevant - I dunno).
- She's a lot more Fe with acquaintances than with close friends.
- I'd describe some of the INFJs I know as sweet and gentle, but I would not describe my mom that way. If I were to describe her in three words/phrases/etc, they'd be "opinionated", "clever", and "type-A".
- She's a history buff, and a music theory/history/etc professor. LOVES lecturing and telling stories. I asked her how lecturing in front of a class is different from chatting with a crowd, and she said that it's different because in a classroom, she's the boss.
- Sometimes I don't think she's capable of thinking objectively...
The reason why I haven't been able to figure out her Enneagram type is that she hardly ever gives away her motivations about anything. So, feel free to ask any questions you think are necessary...