It's late and I'd like to address more of this tomorrow but:
Yes, we've done that a couple of times and it simply doesn't work. He is considered "special needs" and is severly handicapped without meds - like a suicidal person without antidepressants. We would have to have him labeled as such and likely have him in a seperate school with other handicapped people. On meds he is like a normal child and gets A's and B's and has SOME friends and is relatively happy. Without meds he's a mess and is UNHAPPY and basically fails and can't keep up with grade level academics. After exhaustive research, countless testing and specialist my husband and I have concluded that NOT medicating him would be a huge disservice.Could you possibly even consider getting your son off his meds?
My husband and I have three kids. Two of our kids plus my husband have ADD or ADHD (hubby, and both of my sons) my daughter does not have this. My older son who is 13 no longer takes meds but he was ADD and mild, my 10 yo is much more seriously affected and is ADHD. My husband is very sad that he wasn't treated as a child and feels that his ADHD has negtively impacted his life in a profound way. We choose to believe that it;s a mental disorder like the medical establishment says it is, and support treating it as such which generally includes meds just like if it was depression, bipolar, etc. Not everyone will agree but our research led us to this to help our son. Each to their own - everyone should do what is best for their child or themselves. The treatment my son recieves allows him to function among his peers which he wasn't able to do without drugs. We tried a lot of behavioral and non-drug treatments prior to this.
So do you think that my real self is without my anti-anxiety meds? What about my MIL with the Schizophrenia? The fact that ADD/ADHD is a real disorder is generally accepted by the mainstream medical establishment.Your sons 'real self' is obviously his non drugged self.