haha oh lord i know what you mean. i like to tell myself like, no worries, you think it'll be really bad but in truth it's going to be fine... see this is where the enneagram confuses me, in my head i get anxious but my gut tells me everything is okay and i trust my gut more, so i'm like, shut up head, you're going to be fine -- which would make sense, except i think my "head" is actually NeFi and my "gut" is actually TeSi... lol... but anyway, it usually actually isn't as bad as some of the situations i envision, but then sometimes, it's worse - and i maintain external calm, but inside i'm a panicky little ball of AGHHHH, lol. and of course i use finessing skills and logic and empathy and work it all out, but man, that moment where you realize it really is as bad as you feared? ugh. it's like all that guilt i tried to ignore finally catches up to me.