My INFP boyfriend naturally exudes warmth and tenderness without even trying, so much so that sometimes I wonder at it. He is helpful and understanding beyond his means, and even his melancholy is almost Shakespearian.
I always test as INFP as well, having taken lots of tests, and done research, but I dunno, my aura feels different to his. I can be quite boisterous with people at times, but I know that that is forced, and inauthentic, a learned behaviour to 'deal with' the outside world.
I actually can't handle people in my space, I don't really go out at like other students seem to, I can never really do gregarious without getting nervous and going over the top, and I perceive myself to be REALLY annoying.
Please help me type myself.
You definitely sound like an introvert, but that's really the most I can get from your post. The bolded sounds very Ji.
My initial hunch, just from inferences gathered by your OP, is that you are an INFP, but I could also see INFJ or an e4 INTP. There's just really not enough information for me to say anything for sure. If you want serious analysis, I'd suggest you give a bit more info. Perhaps you could start by describing your values a bit?
Oh, and comparing yourself to other people as a way of figuring out your type is not really a good place to start. Two people of the same type do not necessarily have to be completely similar or even give off similar "auras."
Hmmmm, thanks guys, let me see if I can give you more information without being overly self indulgent. 1. To kill two birds with one stone, I don't believe my boyfriend is mistyped, because, like me, he has taken several tests, and on a slightly less logical note he reminds me (and himself sometimes) very much of both Romeo from 'Romeo and Juliet,' and Remus from the 'Harry Potter series, both of whom, though mainly the latter, seem to resonate with something inside both of us somehow, and we were under the impression these were both INFPs, though please feel free correct this if we're mistaken. This brings me to the second point, which is I seem to spend much more of my time pondering the beauty and wonder of certain fictional characters than I do actually interacting with the majority of people (bar the ones who I hold dearest.) and I'm not sure where that puts me, apart from perhaps in lalaland to most people. 2.I try to follow these:a) Unless you know that someone was definitely out to hurt someone through pure spite, don't fully condemn them, because you can't possiblly get into their head and their situation, you only know what you would do and what society expects people to do, so you can't ever really treat two different people exactly the same. Always leave room for you're perceptions of people to change with new information. (b) It's ok not to like people, but it's not ok to be unpleasant to them, if you don't like em, stay away from them. 3. I am most likely to get annoyed when people don't accept my principals, not because I want them to follow them, I just don't want them to tell me I'm wrong about them, as I wouldn't tell them they are wrong about theirs, and if they're right i'll find out in due course by myself. 4. If I need an outlet for inner frustrations, I usually vent this annoyance by analyzing and questioning the morals and inconsistencies things on TV (not necessarily verbally unless friends already started it and I feel comfortable) rather than outright expressing my confusion at the principals behind certain acts of those around me.
I've been typing this post for ages and spilling all this out online seems far too self-absorbed for my liking, so over to you guys, and if you ever have issues you need help with then feel free to ask because I owe you one. Thanks FHDK :-)
Thanks again guys, you're amazingly patient to be hanging out on this board helping the new and confused, that deserves some respect....Kudos to you all and I hope I can help you (and maybe strugglers as well) with something
Just out of interest, are the above types of the fictional guys skewed or correct because I still think that the tendency to do that is rather intriguing to me since I struggle to type myself....Any similar experiences with this?
One thing that's good to know is your enneagram type. You and your boyfriend could definitely be different types. Enneagram makes a world of difference.
From how you describe things, it sounds like you're both 4's with different wings and/or instinctual stackings. The stereotype of each MBTI type falls within an enneagram + MBTI type combo; and naturally some people don't relate (which leads to mistyping).