I was having a conversation about type dynamics and more traditional Jungian theory, and I realized that I am not actually much of an INTP. In addition to being told on MBTIc several times that I seem INTJish, I ran into an incident this evening that opened my eyes.
I had a fight with an INFJ, because she felt something I said was a passive-agressive attack towards her. I had intended my comments to be taken literally, and had a lot of trouble understanding why she was upset. Her behavior confused me. My boyfriend (who I think understands me quite well) said this about it:
<Boyfriend> It's because your ideals of how you think reality should be are getting in the way of your observations of how it is.
It was then that I poured over some functional dynamics with a friend and realized how vastly Ni I am. I am so abstract and internal that I expect the world to comply. When it doesn't, I get confused or frustrated because my Te can't handle it.
I was mislead by the MBTI system because I am disorganized and not goal-oriented. This would make me seem like a Perceiver, but when you look at the type dynamics of it, I'm quite clearly an INTJ.
Henceforth, I shall identify myself as an INTJ. Really, the P/J distinction is a misleading one. IN(T) versus IT(N) is much better.