Thanks Alcearos! I think that's what I'm going to do. Just explore and take my time.
But it's always SOMETHING that doesn't line up with the tests or descriptions. For example, I get the letters figured out ...........E--X--T--J then when they are all put together and I read about the type as a whole I think 'Whoa.......that is so NOT me!'
Side-note - about the NT findings: in many ways it's true that I'm very attracted to theories (that's why I'm here!) and classification systems yet at the same time I'm quite status and appearance concious and tend to follow the trends (clothing, hair styles, cosmetics etc.) a bit more than I suspect most NT's do. I also have good social skills and I'm reading that many NT's don't 'care' much about stuff like that and I certainly do. On the other hand I'm much more rational than a Feeler.........so the cycle continues.
Edit - I also have to mention an incident when I was very young that I think is reflective of me before I was too 'conditioned.' I have a late birthday so my parents took me to a Kindergarten 'readiness' evaluation. THe tester asked me to draw a self-portrait. My parents were chatting with her while I was drawing. After quite some time I was just finishing up. I had drawn a giant cruise ship that covered the entire page and had drawn a teeny-tiny stick figure of myself as the captain. The tester was quite mortified but my parents thought it was quite funny. I've always wanted to 'do my own thing' or is it a 'control thing?' But as I got older and cared more about what people thought I learned to resist doing things like that because I realized that doing what you are supposed to do gave me more academic success and academic success is critically important.