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    Default I don't want to end up with a guy who's just like my dad...

    ... so please help me type him, so that can help me avoiding guys like him. He's a bit of a pain in the ass and it took a long time until my mother realized what person he really was.

    - My father is a teacher. He chose this profession, because he only knew two professions, which were teacher and carpenter. Then he chose to become a teacher because he was too clumsy to become a carpenter.
    - Loves getting attention.
    - Has a warm charisma.
    - He once tried to write a book. When no one wanted to publish that one book, he gave up on writing. He doesn't want me to write stuff either.
    - When he visits someone, he starts talking about his problems immediately.
    - He hates psychologists.
    - He loves making a fool of me in front of others and when I ask him to stop, he tells me that I shouldn't ask him to stop, because if I do that, I'm being unsocial.
    - When I make a fool of him (I'm nice enough to do that when no one is around), he becomes angry and starts yelling and kicking.
    - Violent, a yeller.
    - A few years ago, he ruined the car of one of our neighbors, because he was burning rubber in his back yard.
    - Last week, I went to a party and I arrived home early because it was to boring. I told my father about this boringness. He immediately wanted to know which people where attending the party and who of them was boring. He didn't get it when I told him that the whole party was boring, and he asked me again which people at that party were boring. I didn't answer, because there were just too many people at that party. His response: "You expect way too much of other people!!! Like you're so dynamic!" Okay...
    - He loves talking about his day at work and the people he hates and why he hates them.
    - When my mother or I start telling about our day, he refuses to listen, because it's boring. Therefor my father doesn't know anything about what happened in my life from age 12 till now.
    - When my father is downstairs and I am upstairs doing my homework, my father frequently asks me to come downstairs to open the door for our cat.
    - Sneezes very loudly (you can hear it 200 meters away!).
    - Loves routine and doesn't quite get me, because I don't like routine.
    - Plans everything and he doesn't get it when I get on the train without even knowing where I would like to go.
    - After he graduated from his university, he stayed unemployed for another 20years, because "working will never pay off anyway".
    - Makes strange connections between things, that simply don't make sense.
    - When he just downloaded a song, he plays it on the loudest volume, the whole evening, every day, until he gets bored of it. Then doesn't listen to anything else.
    - During dinner, he turns on Sesame Street, because after Sesame Street they always play this annoying song that I absolutely hate. When that song starts, he sings along with it very loudly, just to annoy me.
    - Eats tomatoes all day long, because they're healthy. What he doesn't know, is that all these tomatoes cause his diarrhea. His diarrea is so bad, that appearantly he has to take off his glasses before he goes to the bathroom.
    - Hates teenagers.
    - Hates parties.
    - Hates dogs.
    - Loves cats.
    - Coughs all day long (even though he never smoked)
    - Makes vomitting sounds while brushing his teeth.
    - When he just went to the bathroom, he first goes to another room and when he reached the outher room (meanwhile he already touched about 3 door handles) THEN he washes his hands. When someone asks him why he doesn't use the tap in the bathroom, he says he just doesn't like that tap. Eww.
    - Doesn't accept it when someone doesn't agree with him and he accuses people who don't agree with him from "always disagreeing woth everyone just because they like disagreeing with everyone!!!".
    - Manipulates.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Saint Kat View Post
    ... so please help me type him, so that can help me avoiding guys like him. He's a bit of a pain in the ass and it took a long time until my mother realized what person he really was.

    - My father is a teacher. He chose this profession, because he only knew two professions, which were teacher and carpenter. Then he chose to become a teacher because he was too clumsy to become a carpenter.
    - Loves getting attention.
    - Has a warm charisma.
    - He once tried to write a book. When no one wanted to publish that one book, he gave up on writing. He doesn't want me to write stuff either.
    - When he visits someone, he starts talking about his problems immediately.
    - He hates psychologists.
    - He loves making a fool of me in front of others and when I ask him to stop, he tells me that I shouldn't ask him to stop, because if I do that, I'm being unsocial.
    - When I make a fool of him (I'm nice enough to do that when no one is around), he becomes angry and starts yelling and kicking.
    - Violent, a yeller.
    - A few years ago, he ruined the car of one of our neighbors, because he was burning rubber in his back yard.
    - Last week, I went to a party and I arrived home early because it was to boring. I told my father about this boringness. He immediately wanted to know which people where attending the party and who of them was boring. He didn't get it when I told him that the whole party was boring, and he asked me again which people at that party were boring. I didn't answer, because there were just too many people at that party. His response: "You expect way too much of other people!!! Like you're so dynamic!" Okay...
    - He loves talking about his day at work and the people he hates and why he hates them.
    - When my mother or I start telling about our day, he refuses to listen, because it's boring. Therefor my father doesn't know anything about what happened in my life from age 12 till now.
    - When my father is downstairs and I am upstairs doing my homework, my father frequently asks me to come downstairs to open the door for our cat.
    - Sneezes very loudly (you can hear it 200 meters away!).
    - Loves routine and doesn't quite get me, because I don't like routine.
    - Plans everything and he doesn't get it when I get on the train without even knowing where I would like to go.
    - After he graduated from his university, he stayed unemployed for another 20years, because "working will never pay off anyway".
    - Makes strange connections between things, that simply don't make sense.
    - When he just downloaded a song, he plays it on the loudest volume, the whole evening, every day, until he gets bored of it. Then doesn't listen to anything else.
    - During dinner, he turns on Sesame Street, because after Sesame Street they always play this annoying song that I absolutely hate. When that song starts, he sings along with it very loudly, just to annoy me.
    - Eats tomatoes all day long, because they're healthy. What he doesn't know, is that all these tomatoes cause his diarrhea. His diarrea is so bad, that appearantly he has to take off his glasses before he goes to the bathroom.
    - Hates teenagers.
    - Hates parties.
    - Hates dogs.
    - Loves cats.
    - Coughs all day long (even though he never smoked)
    - Makes vomitting sounds while brushing his teeth.
    - When he just went to the bathroom, he first goes to another room and when he reached the outher room (meanwhile he already touched about 3 door handles) THEN he washes his hands. When someone asks him why he doesn't use the tap in the bathroom, he says he just doesn't like that tap. Eww.
    - Doesn't accept it when someone doesn't agree with him and he accuses people who don't agree with him from "always disagreeing with everyone just because they like disagreeing with everyone!!!".
    - Manipulates.
    I'm thinking bad ExFJ? that's the vibe I'm getting. From some of them he seems to be faking an illness to get attention (coughing all the time).

    And my awesome INFJ dad, and zany INFJ mom, sneeze just as loud

    Really, you shouldn't need type to figure out who is/n't like your dad. There's other ways to recognize patterns.
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    ENTJ

    Or EntJ.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skyward View Post
    Really, you shouldn't need type to figure out who is/n't like your dad. There's other ways to recognize patterns.
    That.

    But I'm sorry your relationship with your dad hasn't been so hot... mostly because he doesn't get relationships nor knows how to respect the people around him.

    My dad's the same way. It sucks.

    I didn't need to break down type to avoid a guy like him and find someone who resonates with me. It was pretty clear in the first two minutes who wasn't like my father.

    There are some good guys out there.
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    You realize that by avoiding the people that share the same type with your dad, you're not actively avoiding assholes (at least not anymore than usual). If your dad is an ABCD and an asshole and you meet another guy who's ABCD, it's not a guarantee (nor is it more likely than other types) that he will be an asshole.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teslashock View Post
    You realize that by avoiding the people that share the same type with your dad, you're not actively avoiding assholes (at least not anymore than usual). If your dad is an ABCD and an asshole and you meet another guy who's ABCD, it's not a guarantee (nor is it more likely than other types) that he will be an asshole.
    Let's face it, if she avoids all ExTJ types, she's gonna be avoiding a lot of assholes.

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    I'd say ENTJ too. Seems most likely. But as said above. Don't judge people based on MBTI, clearly your father has certain strong views and opinions that clash with other people. That is not native to his MBTI type, it's native to his experiences and the choices he made in life.

    ENTJ's are great, every type has people that can become like this. Reasons for why are plentiful. But from what I read is that he's angry at himself for not being the person he knows he could have been. He probably made some wrong choices in the past and never really accepted them and just sort of spiralled into a slightly destructive pattern, him vs the rest kinda thing.

    Lots of yelling, in particularly reoccuring yelling in adults, are just about always people that know they're one way or another wrong, but overcompensate by angrily shouting about. At least in my experience.

    My father is an ENTJ and I owe a lot to him for the person I am today. Even though I rarily agreed with him, and still don't, mostly because of his stubborness, of which I inherited a fair share too by the way. :P He still always did everything he did for my best interest in his opinion. And his opinion isn't at all bad.

    Your fathers view on the world seems more skewed unfortunatly, and you can't respect descisions you know are inherently wrong, so I'm sorry you don't have a father you can get along with. But again, it's not his type speaking.
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    Quote Originally Posted by teslashock View Post
    You realize that by avoiding the people that share the same type with your dad, you're not actively avoiding assholes (at least not anymore than usual). If your dad is an ABCD and an asshole and you meet another guy who's ABCD, it's not a guarantee (nor is it more likely than other types) that he will be an asshole.
    Sure, assholes come in lots of different flavors.

    *rereads*


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    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    Let's face it, if she avoids all ExTJ types, she'll gonna be avoiding a lot of assholes.

    You'll run into assholes in your life and it's something you just have to deal with imo. But avoiding certain types won't do you much good. Everytype has their fair share of assholes. :P
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    I'm thinking ENxJ...what does he teach? What are his interests besides writing?

    Anyway, I agree with the other posters that you can't avoid a "bad person" by avoiding a type. I'm an ENFJ as you dad may also be, but I am pretty sure I am nothing like what you describe. It's more a matter of healthy vs. unhealthy people.

    BTW...sorry to hear about the situation you are living it. It must be very challenging at best.
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