I'm back and forth whith my type... can someone please play ball with me on this? I myself feel that I am pretty E, but a lot of people tell me that I'm a sure I. I'm often not very talkative in groups, at least not if I have to fight with other Es, but I measure myself very much on what other people think, how I'm perceived - and I'm not really selective whith whom I share personal matters. I have several INFJ friends (seems like I'm an INFJ-magnet or something) - and their secrecy often both annoys and amuses me
Sometimes I can't stand human contact, not even talking to cashier when I'm shopping and things like that. Usually happens when I'm really exhausted, and feel unable to deliver friendlyness/small talk - when I feel unable to perform as usual.
Reasons I'm ENFJ:
I'm not very good with confrontations, hate breaking bad news.
Not interrested in technical/mathematical matters or physics (my husband frequently gives me a headache when he talks about such topics.)
Good whith language (but I sometimes don't talk in "straight lines" - my arguments are sometimes not very logical.)
Idealist - money is not the most important thing in a job for me
An organisations person, lots of volonteer work on my CV
Interested in people - their motivations, what makes them tick
Not afraid of being financially dependent of my husband
Generally cooperative, prefers harmonious relationships
Seem to be identity searching - personality typing is one of my hobbies (and that's not uniquely NF, I know. But I'm not able to settle with one type, and stop looking further.)
Often quite dramatic - things are either black or white
Not able to argue just for fun - it has to be about something concerning my values. I can't defend something I don't personally believe in.
Always was top in my class, but my motivation was to please the teacher. Which gave me a reaction close to depression in university - there were too many people, and impossible to stand out and be the teachers favorite.
Strong motivation to lead, but a fair portion of self doubt about my abilities to do so
Occult/religious interrests - pretty spiritual. And a bit of a missionary about it, I want to convert other people to my spiritual beliefs. I want to build something lasting, organize spiritual communities, design rituals etc.
Have been told several times that I'm a born teacher
Reasons I'm ENTJ:
Not particularly warm and friendly - just normally so
No silly switch here, unless there's alcohol involved (and I normally prefer to drink less, and stay in control of myself)
I often have a hard time identifying my own feelings, but I don't mind sharing whatever I feel if I can find the right words
I don't think my feelings affect other people too much, I don't normally change the feelings of everyone in a room. But I would like to be able to. I sometimes affect people if I'm in a really bad mood.
Mostly in control with how I express myself, manage to be professional most of the time. Probably show my thinking side more frequently than my feeling side - but that has been the norm in most of my work areas, and a key to success (what other people expect of me.)
Not too busy championing others, I'm more busy championing myself
Not a selfless saint (Mother Theresa'ish)
Reasons why I'm neither:
Not extremely charismatic - not a natural public speaker. I think my Ne ruins my communication skills... I don't always make myself 100% understood, and I always forget most of what I actually said afterwards. If possible, I check with someone I trust afterwards if what I said made sense. Sometimes I feel a bit like a loose canon - I don't always trust myself when I speak publically. Sometimes I say things I don't expect myself to say. I'm very comfortable with public speaking, though, and I put myself in situations/positions which require public speaking.
I'm an enneagram 3w2 - which also took me ages to find out. I first thought I was a 7w8 (at age 19) - then an 8w7 (in my 20s) - before I landed on 3w2 when I rounded 30. I was so good at living up to an expected image that I even fooled myself.
I have taken the MBTI and Riso-Hudson enneagram test so many times that I completely see through the tests, and can get pretty much any result that I want