Hello there, I just joined today. I recently took the MBTI from a counselor and tested ESFJ. After coming here and reading all the posts it seems like my type is more of a curse for me. What are the reasons why everyone is so down on my type?
You should keep in mind that every Archetype has it's own idiosyncrasy/stereotype/negativity attached to it, regardless of whether those suppositions have any truth or not. This is the result of inductive reasoning prevailing over conductive reasoning.
So, I'm just going to state my opinions about the ESFJs that I know to straightforwardly answer your question.
Being an INFP, I view some of them as being obnoxious and obtrusive. They may also be materialistic and "party animals". They may also try to force others to reciprocate when they are generous or "altruistic".
However, they can be very pleasent if the circumstances are proper.
I can't like nor hate a type. I love the ESTJ type because I know several nice and interesting ESTJs who make the type more concrete. I've despised the ENFJ type for a while because I knew only one real-life ENFJ and that was an annoying one - until I realised one of my former teachers also belonged to that type. Now I like the type. I'd still need more examples in order to really love it.
ESFJ are only four letters to me. I'd love to find some real-life ESFJs around me that I can use as examples.
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