First, I would try to understand how and why they reached the view they did by giving them the opportunity to "try and convince me" (its pretty rare for them to change my mind if its something I feel strongly about, but in their attempt to do so, I gain an understanding of where they are coming from and also reassure them that their opinion is worth hearing). I may question them in a Socratic method while they explain their view, this is both for me to better understand them and to make sure they have considered the same things I would in reaching such a conclusion. If it becomes clear that neither of us will change our minds, then I simply "agree to disagree" and leave it at that (but I do file away their view in memory and keep an eye out for moments that might be able to put their view in a new perspective either for me or them).
Basically, unless its something that really bothers me, I don't want to make someone feel their view is "wrong" but I do want to challenge their view and make sure it is well thought out and that they believe it because they reached the conclusion on their own and that they are comfortable with their decision.
It depends on the cause of the distress, but as a generality, I would offer to be an ear for them to talk to and offer to help with other things if I thought it would help. I know the value of "just having someone to talk to" in times like that, but also recognize that in certain cases, you just want to be left alone but its good to know that if/when you change your mind there will be someone to listen to you.Originally Posted by Tovlo
Hmmm, I'm really not achievement oriented so thats a bit of a difficult question. In a traditional sense of what people might notice and view as accomplishments, my analytical and problem solving skills tend to get the most notice by others, but the satisfaction gained through those acts is minor. I suppose it goes back to doing things for others thats what gives me a sense of satisfaction. In my own mind, if I can do something for a friend that makes even a minor difference to them thats more of accomplishment to me than the things others are likely to notice - finding a creative way to personalize something I make or buy as a gift for someone would be a good example of something that would give me a sense of accomplishment.2. What aspect of your personality has been recognized over the course of your life as the source of your greatest achievements?