Most of the time, my own, but in the case of close friends, I put them before myself (I can only think of 3 friends and my sister that fall into that category tho). I do try to not be selfish and be considerate of others feelings and desires, but I also try not to neglect my own needs anymore. Heres a lyric that reflects that a bit (a bit out of context but gets the meanign I think)...
Missed the question of gender. I am MaleRearranging by L'Ame Immortelle
I cared to much for people´s thoughts
And forgot about my own
If I´d continue to suit their needs
I´d loose the treasure that I own
My powers focused, they shall be
To treat my treasure properly