I've become very interested in Enneagram Typing lately. I'm an INFJ and I know 4w5 is very common for INFJs so a while back I briefly read a 4 and 5 description, thought they sounded like me, and just assumed that's what I was too.
But as I'm reading more about it, the 9w1 sounds a lot like me too.
Any advice on figuring out for certain which one I am? Is it possible to be both? Just how unusual is a 9w1 INFJ? I know that a person's Myers-Briggs personality type stays static throughout their life (i.e., I was an INFJ as a child, am now an INFJ, and will remain an INFJ through old age); but can one's Enneagram type change over time?
I would say that in the majority of my interactions I'm a 9 -- I'm easygoing, dreamy, a people pleaser, accommodating, like and get along well with 99.9% of the people I meet (and that 0.1% really has to be an asshole to earn my ire), and constantly strive for harmony, becoming anxious if people around me are arguing. If two of my friends are in an argument with each other, I work quietly behind the scenes to try to ease them back onto better terms. And one of the most uncomfortable, anxiety-provoking feelings for me is when I worry that I've done or said the wrong thing in a social situation and unintentionally offended someone.
However, in matters of the heart, parts of enneagram four really do strike a chord with me, although I would say my partner is the only one who sees that side of me. In his and my relationship, most of the time I am laidback and eager to please like I imagine a 9 would be, but sometimes I can be quite sensitive and emotionally needy, and I would say probably twice a month or so I'll have a bad mood swing that I'm not able to control and that I end up feeling embarrassed about after the fact. I also do enjoy "feeling special and unique" as I've read that 4s do, although I'm not sure that I like to feel particularly more special/unique than the average person (doesn't everyone like feeling special to an extent?). I associate over-sensitivity and mood swings with negative aspects of Enneagram 4s (there being other more positive characteristics of 4s as well, of course).
So, which one am I? All input is appreciated :o)