So I've been dating this guy for a little over 4 months, and I've known him on and off since we were kids. Until recently I figured he was a fellow ENTP - this seemed to be the best-fitting type as far as I could tell. He took an online test once and came out INTP, and later took one in one of his college classes and came out ENTP. I have no real doubts that he's an extrovert, and I'm just about positive he's primary Ne, but lately I've come to wonder about the accuracy of the T/F thing. He has a real penchant for talking about being true to your real self, stating his opinions about things pretty strongly (even when he doesn't seem to have the facts to back up his opinions - seems he's more comfortable with reacting by how he feels about things than by taking in all the information and going from there, though he is capable of both)... one of the things that actually irritates me about him is how at times he talks as if he is such a unique individual - he sets himself apart from me in areas where I feel we have real commonalities. For example, he's really into environmental activism, but he's the type who likes to jump into protests. Me - I like to research things and patterns and appeal to people through information and persuasion (Fe?)...he seems more interested in making a statement through making his voice heard loudly. Because I'm not so overt about my interests - because I'm not the type to suggest a protest or graffiti within the first breath - I think he underestimates my interest in his causes. But I just approach things differently.
So anyway, I was wondering if this isn't representative of secondary Fi instead of Ti. And, for that matter, Te instead of Fe.
Another thing of note - he's more prone to being a romantic than I am. He can say mushy things seriously that I find difficult to reciprocate. And he's very interested in the continued growth of the relationship. Don't get me wrong, I am too, but I don't bring things up like he does. He seems to have a latent trajectory in mind that he'd like to follow, though he's flexible about it (Te?).
We also often perceive interpersonal situations differently. I find I agree with most of my ESFJ best friend's analyses about interpersonal things (we link up on Fe), but some of the things my boyfriend says hit me out of left field, though I can see his point once I think about it. He is a very friendly individual, but he's prone to being - what shall I say? - overgregarious and annoying the hell out of some groups he hangs around. He's not great at matching the tone of groups he's in. And I imagine, though he has a people-pleasing streak, he wouldn't really care to match the tone that much anyway. Not if he feels it's eroding his sense of individuality past a certain point.
Now he is 19 (soon to be 20), so I don't know if some of this has to do with that, but I'm pretty positive about my type, and though we are very similar, I'm starting to reinterpret some of our differences within the lovely ol' frame of MBTI. They may be more than intratype variation.
Long post! So, what do you think?