defragmybrain
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I have a friend named Sarah. We went to highschool together. We had much in common but we had very different personalities. We kind of grew apart after highschool and haven't seen eachother very often.
While i have become confident and flirty and opinionated, Emma remains reserved, shy, quiet and entirely ASEXUAL.
She worries me -
She's 20 years old, has never had a boyfriend, has kissed a boy once ( i think), never had an orgasm by her self (infact that never came to mind and she doesnt care to try).
Her parents were divorced when she was eight, that could have been why her relationship with men has been odd; but both her parents are great and don't have problems and they love her.
She has crushes on guys, but doesnt act on them or over analyzes them in ways that are petty. She loves celebrities and obsesses over them more than actual men she could go for.
She's an opera singer, doll-faced, very attractive, golden curls. Very close to her family, soft spoken. Loves cats and lives in a very dollhouse atmosphere.
Non religious. Very smart and articulate.
She loves chickflicks and all things super girly: girly popish music, shopping, sleep overs. Etc.
She likes musicians and boys who can sing and write music. Boys who treat her like a lady and who can take her to dinner, do the romantic walks on the beach, and all that cliche'd crap taht i thought girls had gotten over with.
She reads alot, plays the piano, does home work diligently. Physically she is thin and doesn't over dress, but likes skirts with flowers and all things feminine. She doesnt drink, smoke or do drugs and has never tried.
She claims she can't/doesnt know how to flirt, so she thinks all her moves are awkward and then over analyzes all of what she had done wrong.
Some friends say that things will come in time for her; which is true. But she is feeling stressed now that all her friends had 'grown up' and she hadn't. I suggested she give the whole growing up thing a try - if she doesnt like it she doesnt have to continue.
To most of us this comes rather naturally but i don't know what to suggest for Sarah.
Any way to type her or figure out how to help this poor girl??
While i have become confident and flirty and opinionated, Emma remains reserved, shy, quiet and entirely ASEXUAL.
She worries me -
She's 20 years old, has never had a boyfriend, has kissed a boy once ( i think), never had an orgasm by her self (infact that never came to mind and she doesnt care to try).
Her parents were divorced when she was eight, that could have been why her relationship with men has been odd; but both her parents are great and don't have problems and they love her.
She has crushes on guys, but doesnt act on them or over analyzes them in ways that are petty. She loves celebrities and obsesses over them more than actual men she could go for.
She's an opera singer, doll-faced, very attractive, golden curls. Very close to her family, soft spoken. Loves cats and lives in a very dollhouse atmosphere.
Non religious. Very smart and articulate.
She loves chickflicks and all things super girly: girly popish music, shopping, sleep overs. Etc.
She likes musicians and boys who can sing and write music. Boys who treat her like a lady and who can take her to dinner, do the romantic walks on the beach, and all that cliche'd crap taht i thought girls had gotten over with.
She reads alot, plays the piano, does home work diligently. Physically she is thin and doesn't over dress, but likes skirts with flowers and all things feminine. She doesnt drink, smoke or do drugs and has never tried.
She claims she can't/doesnt know how to flirt, so she thinks all her moves are awkward and then over analyzes all of what she had done wrong.
Some friends say that things will come in time for her; which is true. But she is feeling stressed now that all her friends had 'grown up' and she hadn't. I suggested she give the whole growing up thing a try - if she doesnt like it she doesnt have to continue.
To most of us this comes rather naturally but i don't know what to suggest for Sarah.
Any way to type her or figure out how to help this poor girl??
