"How dreadful!" cried Lord Henry. "I can stand brute force, but brute reason is quite unbearable. There is something unfair about its use. It is hitting below the intellect." ~ Oscar Wilde - The picture of Dorian Gray
Hey Johnny, thanks. I can tell what people can handle. Very few of my acquaintances see me at full strength. I want someone who can not only handle me at full throttle but want me to he me. I don't often hurt feelings because I can tell what would be too much, but a part of me cries inside because I think, oh great, yet another person I can't be myself around.
I have a high response to stimulae, sometimes called over-excitability (OE), and I can tell when this becomes too much, and then I throttle right back.
Ocassionally I find someone who likes full throttle and then we flow together like water.
Oh. Well go get yourself an Aussie. Those blokes are all good fun, and love taking the piss outta people and can handle it as well. America has a lot of wimpy hipsters that cry when you make fun of their mustache.
i'm a 32 year old lawyer, and like you i've jumped around professionally (not between professions, but certainly between jobs in my field). i can't spend more than around 2 years in one role before i feel an extreme urge to look around and see what else is out there for me. i also have a bit of an eclectic range of other interests (literature, singing, makeup artistry, restoring art deco furniture).
as i've aged i've become more mellow and the group of people i can get along with is now much more broad than when i was in my early to mid-20s). i find i have to meet people a bit more than halfway sometimes in settings like work, so that they feel comfortable. learning about mbti has helped me to do that (i know more about what people want to hear from me). the comparmentalisation process can feel quite unsophisticated (in many ways mbti is a blunt tool), but there are some useful broad lessons. in my life i've used it most strategically in work settings...which is social manipulation in a sense...
in terms of men the ones that would find me difficult don't tend to attract me anyway. i haven't found it hard to meet potential suitors (i'm conventionally attractive, so guys'll have a go before i've opened my mouth), but i have found it hard to find one that really clicks.
i'm in a relationship with an intj, which is a lovely fit for me. he's hilarious, and fun is really important to me in relationships.
feel free to pm me.
Thanks for the note!
Yes, I've been in my job for 6 months and I'm getting the itch to move up already.
I've become better at knowing how I affect people, and try to keep a lid on things. I understand others don't see things the way do, and I'm getting better at using that when it counts and ignoring it when it could do damage.
The best boyf I ever had was an INTJ, too. Hilarious, rolled with all my arguments. Had fun with my messiness.
I call that enthusiasm. Which I have to keep in check.
I prefer not to keep my enthusiasm in check, but I have found I can turn it off if I listen actively to the other person. I find that active listening relaxes me, and active listening is well received by the other person.