I now have to write a letter to the registrar at my school, explaining in my own words why I think my husband should have a posthumous degree conferred to him. The deans & instructors all agreed by mutual decision to go ahead with conferring a degree upon him in his memory and honor.
That is wonderful... I'm so, so sorry to hear of his passing but that is a beautiful way to honor him. It is horrible that he is no longer with you but you are so lucky to have had such a happy and loving relationship. I hope you are able to always feel that love despite the pain and grief.
I have been a member here for awhile but never sign in. I hope to hang around here more often.
I have lost my father when I was in my twenties. This loss was profoundly devastating to me. We were very close. He was young. Cancer- went quickly. Shocking to all of us who loved him. I recall the first year being TORTUROUS. Simply torture. I would cry in the shower. It would seem that was a time with the "white noise" of the water spraying and being alone- memories would flood of my father and I would cry and cry into the streaming water as if it were a safe place where no one could hear me. I would also suddenly become overwhelmed with emotion when I would be driving or watching TV and see something - anything that reminded me of him. The tears would come like a faucet- out of my control.
It slowly got better. And better. And better. Each passing year.
I hope each and every moment, your grief is less and less of a burden on your soul.
What a wonderful thing that you shared a loving relationship with a wonderful husband. You are left with loving memories- not negativity like many relationships have. You had something special- and no one can ever take that away.
Take good care!!
It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. ~e.e. cummings