Strength/Beauty in the One-to-One Relationship for the Six
The preoccupation with strength stems from the need to develop personal power as a compensation for feeling afraid. This can turn into falsely macho presentation in the counterphobic men and into a preoccupation with the power of being able to affect men sexually in counterphobic women.
Beauty is a preoccupation with aesthetics, especially in physical surroundings and physical appearance. Focusing on objective physical beauty eases the habit of scanning the environment for worst case possibilities. Both men and women have the preoccupation with beauty.
"There's a real mistrust of people, so as soon as you get too close and permanent you get afraid that your partner's going to do something to you. On the one hand, you're afraid of abandonment, and on the other, you're very critical of your lover when it gets too close, so you protect yourself by being 'strong' and somewhat cold."