Hi there. Stumbled across this fab forum tonight, I had no idea y'all were here!
I've been posting at Similarminds for about 2 1/2 years or so. Love it there but it can be a little quiet sometimes.
I'm kind of a weird ISTJ. 32 years old, female. Kind of alternativey minded, into permaculture, personal growth, and things like that. (Ever get the feeling all the ISTJ profiles were written about some 70 year old conservative man? I do.) Had some sort of spiritual awakening when I was about 24, I don't quite know how to describe that.
Grew up with an ISTJ dad who's narcissistic, rigid, irascible and tedious, and made it my mission to not be that kind of ISTJ. I will face up to any flaw in myself no matter how painful if it means I don't have to live by dragging others down. I've been aware of MBTI for about 20 years now, gradually getting more and more interested, using it to gain self awareness, and gradually acquiring a working knowledge of more and more of the types so I can do a better job at relationships. My main sources are the Barron Tieger books: they give me the system with which I can make sense of my own observations. I research and analyse the crap out of everyone and everything - it is my way and it is how I reach insight (along with talking things through with trusted friends). Some people take offence and think "analytical" is some sort of swear word, but if I listened to them, I'd never get to learn anything.
My mum is ENFJ. She was/is hypercritical of me. There is just something "wrong" with me (and me alone) that she has got to iron out for my own good. However lovely she was to everyone else, her parenting of me was blatantly illogical, inconsistent and unfair, mainly based on creating guilt and fear. I was a stressed out child and now have chronic health problems, and still struggle with self esteem or trying to perceive myself accurately. (Does everyone see me as a horrible person like she warned me they would?) I have copped a lot of the negative side of Fe and I am basically allergic to strong Fe. I do have a good relationship with her now though. It helped when I finally worked out her type - it made sense of everything. She was mistyped as ENFP many years ago (she's so not a P!!).
I have a 6 year old ISFJ son. He does various things that drive me insane. This is my fault, not his. I seem to be a little emotionally worn out in recent years.
Some of the other significant folk in my life:
Best girlfriend: INFP
Anyway, I hope I can make a contribution here. I've enjoyed reading some of your threads already, great forum.