Whether or not they know it, it shows when someone is coming from a place of being superior- regardless of whether they know they’re coming from a place of feeling superior. I don’t know if the phrase “assert superiority” is what’s a problem here. It doesn’t matter if that’s the intention- if that’s what’s happening, then that’s what’s happening. I guess just take the action of someone showing up when they feel they’ve been misrepresented and trying to ‘fix’ that misrepresentation by stating how superior they are…..if “asserting superiority” doesn’t work to describe that, then use whatever phrase you like.
It’s not just you, it’s the Fi elitism that quite a few people have. And I wouldn’t say you deliver the passive-aggressive slights, you are relatively direct- and I’m not being facetious when I say it’s actually something I appreciate about you. You don’t preface your elitist condescension with “I love INFJs.”
People here are forever bitching and moaning about how INFJs simply disappear instead of trying to point out what isn’t working for them in some situation: I’m trying to point out how there’s something in this forum that doesn’t work for INFJs and makes them shut down/back away. I think it’s something worth discussing- because it does interfere with the quality of discussion, and because INFJs have left the forum because of it- but yeah, it is interrupting the flow of the rest of the thread so I’ll stop.