User Tag List

First 1234 Last

Results 21 to 30 of 38

  1. #21
    soft and silky sarah's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    MBTI
    isfp
    Posts
    548

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    Once I made the connection that appearing to be different people is an ISFP being genuine and not a facade I gained a whole other level of appreciation...
    *sigh* It feels good to be understood.

    Quote Originally Posted by Quinlan View Post
    Yet both of those types have weak Se, which seems to be a fundamental part of who you are. Sounds like these people are confusing abilty with preference, you seem to be a well developed individual with strengths right across the cognitve processes however I have no doubt that the isfp primary processes come most naturally to you. Well actually you shouldn't listen to what I think, or the others on the board because we don't know you, your isfp you probably only share a fraction of who you really are, so you know yourself far better than anyone else ever will.

    You know, it was actually learning about the cognitive processes that finally helped me sort out my best fit type. Once I read about the difference between extraverted sensing and extraverted intuition, I realized I do Ne very badly, and only really "resort" to it when I feel hugely stressed out -- and usually what happens is that people laugh at my crazy beliefs about their underlying motives. So I kind of had to rule out the NFP types, since they excel at using Ne. From what I can tell, I rely on being able to notice options for action in the present moment instead.

    Quote Originally Posted by Aimahn View Post
    Yeah I'm assuming they either don't have a very good grasp of MBTI or you just have a very good one and understand yourself more(obviously).
    Well, I'm not qualified to administer the MBTI and I haven't gone to any of Dr Beebe's hugely expensive seminars on the cognitive processes, but I do read quite a lot on it -- by authors I respect. It's made a huge difference in my real life relationships. I'm very practical, in that if type theory didn't have a lot of relevance to my relationships with my family and friends TODAY, then I wouldn't bother with it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sunshine View Post
    ISFPs only share a tiny fraction of who they are!!!
    You said it, sister! I really think many SFPs are good at finding ways of dealing with whatever's going on in the present moment while still being aware of what we value underneath it all. Other ISFPs can correct me if I'm wrong in generalizing here, but I'm guessing the reason we don't "seek" an identity is because we believe our identity is whatever we choose to be right here, right now, not what we used to be, or could be.

    Quote Originally Posted by Anja View Post
    Sarah, how about this line?

    I refuse to give free rent in my head to other people.
    I am copying that out and taping it to my computer at home. Thank you for that, Anja! I need to remember that.


    Sarah
    ISFP

  2. #22
    soft and silky sarah's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    MBTI
    isfp
    Posts
    548

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Athenian200 View Post
    Oh... I'm so sorry to hear about this. It really shouldn't have happened to you, but considering Keirsey's description of the SP temperament... are you really surprised?
    Nope. You're right, many people here probably only use the Keirsey behaviorist method of identifying type. Actually, if they met me in person, they'd realize that the way I talk is not all nicely arranged and well-thought-out like the way I write. Writing styles can be pretty deceptive.


    Quote Originally Posted by Athenian200 View Post
    I must say, though, you're rather clever to have come up with this idea. I see your Ni works a little.
    Oooo, I would love to take total credit for that, but I came to that conclusion after showing an ENFJ on another type discussion list a long detailed (and very good) definition of introverted feeling -- just introverted feeling, with no mention of intuition or temperament -- and she said it was almost impossible for her to separate that defintion from the Idealist temperament, but that seh realized she herself didn't "do" Fi very well. So I take it that much of the confusion is related to people not realizing that there's a big difference between the "values" of the Idealist NF temperament (searching for identity, meaning and significance, unity, empathic relationships, cooperative interaction, etc) and using introverted feeling to solidify in your mind you strongly believe "has ultimate value" regardless of place and time. People like me can definitely have strong feelings of knowing what's worth valuing regardless of place and time and still live out the SP temperamental values (aesthetics, action, performance with skill, variety, fraternal relationships, etc) much more strongly than the NF temperamental values.

    Plus, it doesn't help that there's a lot of confusion between compassion and empathy. I don't do the latter very well, even though I think it's wonderful that some people are able to.

    Quote Originally Posted by Athenian200 View Post
    This IS in fact what most people think. I've typed myself as an INFJ, and most people think I'm an IxTJ. Most of what people stereotypically associate with NFs are, in fact, Fi traits. INFJs are often mistaken for NTs, because we have (according to the model) the weakest Fi out of the NF temperament (and the strongest Ti, which is what is stereotypically associated with the NT temperament).

    Yes! I totally think you're right on that.


    Quote Originally Posted by Athenian200 View Post
    According that same model, ISFP is very likely to be mistaken for an Idealist such as INFP. ISTPs would also often be mistaken for INTPs, and so on.

    It goes like this:

    INFJ leans towards NT (Ni+Ti).
    INTJ leans towards NF (Ni+Fi).
    ISFP leans towards NF (Fi+Ni).
    ISTP leans towards NT (Ti+Ni).

    This is a consequence not only of stereotypes, but of tertiary function influence. These sorts of mistypes seem most consistently predictable for ISPs and INJs.

    Does that make sense?
    Yes!

    Sarah
    ISFP

  3. #23
    soft and silky sarah's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    MBTI
    isfp
    Posts
    548

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Kleinheiko View Post
    Sarah, you're one of the smartest and most interesting people on this forum. You be whoever you want to be. We need more SP's anyways.
    Thanks!

    Quote Originally Posted by wolfy View Post
    You've always come across as ISFP to me. That's why I asked you, Jeffster and Mo and other ISFPs to help when I was wondering about my type.
    You aren't ISFP anyway at the end of the day you're Sarah whose type within the MBTI theory is in your most humble opinion ISFP.
    Over identifying with anything is a recipe for disaster.
    Ooh, don't I know it! I made a complete idiot of myself on another type list once by going into an emotional frenzy over something stupid somebody said about my type. I was told quite firmly (but kindly) by several people that I needed to stop over-identifying with a "type" to the extent that I took everything that was ever written about it personally.

    Quote Originally Posted by wolfy View Post
    Anja's line reminded of this one
    If someone offers you a gift and you refuse it who does the gift belong to?
    Good point. Heh.

    Quote Originally Posted by Colors View Post
    That's just because Kiersey is a very different system. :P

    Sarah, you're awesome, so you can be any type you want to be.

    (Fi-doms are always sneaky anyway.)
    Sneakiness is part of our charm...


    Thanks for the wakeup call, people! I needed to hear it said.

    Sarah
    ISFP

  4. #24
    @.~*virinaĉo*~.@ Totenkindly's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    MBTI
    FREE
    Enneagram
    594 sx/sp
    Socionics
    LII Ne
    Posts
    42,333

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by sarah View Post
    So I'm starting to get a couple of people on this list emailing me to question my type preferences now. It happened on another type discussion list I was on, and I managed to convince them that there are all different flavors of the same type. It's really kind of irritating, though.

    Am I really that untypical of ISFPs? I mean, shoot, I'm stereotypical in that I'm an actual artist, I love nature, I love little kids, I'm a pacifist and an environmentalist, I try to make everything in my life as beautiful as possible, I move gracefully, I care tremendously about staying lithe and fit, I notice the world in great detail and love pleasurable sensations, and I care about improving the aesthetics of everything. This stuff is my passion.

    Is it just because I speak my mind, and I was brought up in a family that expected their daughters not only to talk coherently but also write in complete sentences with correct grammar (my mother majored in English literature in college and worked as a copy editor)? Is it because I care about psychological type enough to have read a number of books on the subject? Is it because I have rather "highbrow" interests? Or because I have spiritual opinions (which I've never even mentioned on this list yet, so that can't be it!) Is it because people think introverted feeling = the NF temperament? Is it because I say I have an imagination? What's going on here?
    I haven't really read a lot of your posts, Sarah, but I don't have any problems with the ISFP read.

    What people don't seem to get is that Fi is very strong in ISFPs, not just INFPs. Honestly, since the S's tend to be more "tangible," I find the Fi even more obvious to me with them in my interactions because the INFPs can get rather ethereal and the Ne becomes more apparent. ISFPs might flex alot in terms of how things get done and seem easy-going, but their personal commitment to their values has been very intense when I've witnessed it and sometimes the judgment against those who violate them can be very strong.

    Your whole middle paragraph sounds stereotypically ISFP. No problems with that.

    Even after reading the third paragraph, I'm not sure why people would question it at the moment. You might have some non-stereotypical behavior but I'm not sure yet how it pans out.
    "Hey Capa -- We're only stardust." ~ "Sunshine"

    “Pleasure to me is wonder—the unexplored, the unexpected, the thing that is hidden and the changeless thing that lurks behind superficial mutability. To trace the remote in the immediate; the eternal in the ephemeral; the past in the present; the infinite in the finite; these are to me the springs of delight and beauty.” ~ H.P. Lovecraft

  5. #25
    Senior Member "?"'s Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2007
    MBTI
    TiSe
    Posts
    1,167

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by sarah View Post
    I know I should just chill out about all this type stuff, but it really bothers me that I can't just say I've discovered my best type fit and have that accepted by people. In fact, I feel angry and I don't know what to do. (My ISTJ sister hates most type descriptions of her type, as well as much of what's said about ISTJs online, but she seems to be able to just ignore the bad stuff... I envy that reasonable detatchment. I can't help not taking this stuff personally.)
    We discussed this on 16types a couple of years ago and nothing has changed with people continuing to put people into boxes based on their limited knowledge of type. This says less about whether you are ISFP and more about the fact that people allow their prejudices to spill over even into type discussions. If I am sure about anyone knowing their type it would be you since I know that you did go through Berens process and as a result made that determination based on self-analysis. I cant begin to count the times that someone considered me an intuitive type. I am sure that Pgats can say the same as well as others on this and other forums. You are ISFP not because I see it in you, but because you know yourself far better than people on this forum.

  6. #26
    Intriguing.... Quinlan's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    MBTI
    ISFP
    Enneagram
    9w1
    Socionics
    Booo
    Posts
    3,005

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by sarah View Post
    You said it, sister! I really think many SFPs are good at finding ways of dealing with whatever's going on in the present moment while still being aware of what we value underneath it all. Other ISFPs can correct me if I'm wrong in generalizing here, but I'm guessing the reason we don't "seek" an identity is because we believe our identity is whatever we choose to be right here, right now, not what we used to be, or could be.
    Yes I have been thinking about this a lot lately in regards to trying to type ourselves and very much identify with it. Finding our type doesn't seem as straight forward as it is for other types because their sense of self seems more rigid and ongoing than ours.

  7. #27
    Magical Firelie's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    5
    Posts
    836

    Default

    You're right. You shouldn't care.

    It's just a label, like any other.

    I compare it to a filing system. There's one filing cabinet I maintain at work for building services and maintenance (it's a real estate company) and when other companies send in information about their businesses, I get to file the papers away by the category. The other day I got a new flyer about a janitorial service company that also offered window cleaning and pressure washing. Now, there's a folder for janitorial services, and a folder for pressure washing & window services. I was torn between which to put it in. In the end I opted for the Janitorial folder, because that's what the company was, a janitorial company. I decided that the fact that they offered pressure washing services didn't make them a pressure washing company.

    Moral of that incredibly boring story: So you offer more than your type regularly does...that doesn't mean you aren't your type. Some people just can't see past the pressure washing.

  8. #28
    veteran attention whore Jeffster's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    MBTI
    ESFP
    Enneagram
    7w6 sx
    Socionics
    SEE Fi
    Posts
    6,727

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by sarah View Post
    I really think many SFPs are good at finding ways of dealing with whatever's going on in the present moment while still being aware of what we value underneath it all. Other ISFPs can correct me if I'm wrong in generalizing here, but I'm guessing the reason we don't "seek" an identity is because we believe our identity is whatever we choose to be right here, right now, not what we used to be, or could be.
    No correction necessary, I think that's about as good as it can possibly be put. I think I just teared up a bit in fact.
    Jeffster Illustrates the Artisan Temperament <---- click here

    "I like the sigs with quotes in them from other forum members." -- Oberon

    The SP Spazz Youtube Channel

  9. #29
    Senior Member Anja's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    MBTI
    INFP
    Posts
    2,967

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by sarah View Post




    I am copying that out and taping it to my computer at home. Thank you for that, Anja! I need to remember that.


    Sarah
    ISFP


    You're most welcome, Sarah. It works for me!

    Another? I think Eleanor Roosevelt said it, "What other people think of me is none of my business."

    The gift wolfy mentioned is a great one too. I feel pretty good when I allow people to keep their gifts of resentment and anger.

    I, also, rarely miss one of your posts! Smart Girl!
    "No ray of sunshine is ever lost, but the green which it awakes into existence needs time to sprout, and it is not always granted to the sower to see the harvest. All work that is worth anything is done in faith." - Albert Schweitzer

  10. #30
    Senior Member Sunshine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    MBTI
    ABCD
    Enneagram
    4 sx/so
    Socionics
    SEI
    Posts
    1,040

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by sarah View Post
    You said it, sister! I really think many SFPs are good at finding ways of dealing with whatever's going on in the present moment while still being aware of what we value underneath it all. Other ISFPs can correct me if I'm wrong in generalizing here, but I'm guessing the reason we don't "seek" an identity is because we believe our identity is whatever we choose to be right here, right now, not what we used to be, or could be.
    HUH?? I'm an enneagram 4. I don't understand not seeking an identity. Lol.
    LOL! WAIT! You're a 4 too. Hmm. Well I do feel like my identity changes so I guess I know what you mean...it happens a lot that one day I'm one way...maybe a particular side of me is showing...and then another day I'm another way...another side showing or maybe another side coupled with another mood.

Similar Threads

  1. Adult Autism. Why don't we hear much about this?
    By ygolo in forum General Psychology
    Replies: 24
    Last Post: 04-15-2013, 10:46 PM
  2. why can't you buy just one carrot?
    By prplchknz in forum Home, Garden and Nature
    Replies: 23
    Last Post: 01-07-2012, 11:26 AM
  3. WHY CAN'T WE ALL JUST BE FWIENDS?!?!
    By Costrin in forum The Fluff Zone
    Replies: 88
    Last Post: 08-04-2009, 07:35 PM
  4. "Why can't we just admit it?"
    By Brendan in forum The Bonfire
    Replies: 26
    Last Post: 07-02-2008, 06:04 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO