complexa46
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Okay so me and this guy (ISFP) had a non-confirmed relationship over the summer which only lasted for two weeks. We went to this summer camp and he was playfully teasing me at first but then he became more affectionate as the days went by. Whenever we sat down, he squeezed my knee and thigh and would be so close to me until our sides were touching. When we came home from camp, he began messaging me every day up to three times day, sometimes even just to say goodnight and would share very personal things about himself to me. He also asked me out on a date to see a film. Whenever we met up, he would stare at me intently for what seemed like minutes and would try and touch me as much as he possibly could. After about 4 days, I started to fall for him. We had so much in common and the connection was amazing. Suddenly, after two weeks he stopped messaging me and about 3 days after stopping he sent me a message saying:
-he didn’t have any feelings for me at all beyond friendship
-he doesn’t want a relationship with me
-our friendship won’t be as strong because we’re at different locations and he needs to see and interact with people to connect with them
-he wants to chat every now and then but just be friends because he still thinks I’m a great person and he enjoys conversing with me
I was hurt so I stopped talking to him (he said he thought that would be the best thing to do). 2 weeks later I ended up living in the same town he was living in as we were both going to university but we went to different ones. However, we weren’t in contact for 3 months until he saw me at church and he tried to be as close to me as possible in whatever room I was in until he asked me how I was. In fact, he asked me loads of questions about myself and shared some of what is going on in his life too. I took this as a good sign that we could be friends again so I added him as a friend on Facebook but he declined.
So my questions:
1. Did he have feelings for me? Is what he did a typical ISFP response when expressing affection?
2. Can an ISFP’s mind about how they feel towards someone change so quickly?
3. Is there any chance he could still be into me? Or should I just give up and move on?
4. Why would he decline my friend request if he said he wanted to be friends? As far as I know, he’s never opened up to anyone but me and his family so surely I was an okay friend?
-he didn’t have any feelings for me at all beyond friendship
-he doesn’t want a relationship with me
-our friendship won’t be as strong because we’re at different locations and he needs to see and interact with people to connect with them
-he wants to chat every now and then but just be friends because he still thinks I’m a great person and he enjoys conversing with me
I was hurt so I stopped talking to him (he said he thought that would be the best thing to do). 2 weeks later I ended up living in the same town he was living in as we were both going to university but we went to different ones. However, we weren’t in contact for 3 months until he saw me at church and he tried to be as close to me as possible in whatever room I was in until he asked me how I was. In fact, he asked me loads of questions about myself and shared some of what is going on in his life too. I took this as a good sign that we could be friends again so I added him as a friend on Facebook but he declined.
So my questions:
1. Did he have feelings for me? Is what he did a typical ISFP response when expressing affection?
2. Can an ISFP’s mind about how they feel towards someone change so quickly?
3. Is there any chance he could still be into me? Or should I just give up and move on?
4. Why would he decline my friend request if he said he wanted to be friends? As far as I know, he’s never opened up to anyone but me and his family so surely I was an okay friend?