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    Default Love Languages for SPs

    Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch.

    For Quality Time, I think that's always in the top 3 of anyone's list so let's not include that.

    For me as an ISTP it's 1. Receiving Gifts and 2. Acts of Service and 3. Words of Affirmation

    I've come across ESTPs and they seem to be 1. Acts of Service 2. Words of Affirmation and 3. Physical Touch.

    not sure about ESFPs.

    ISFPs I think it seems to be 1. Acts of Service 2. Physical Touch 3. Receiving Gifts.

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    Food, Football, and Fuhhhh...physical touch.
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    I kinda see acts of service as equivalent to gifts.

    So I'd rank them 1. physical touch 2. acts of service/gifts (if personal) 3. affirming words 4. gifts (if nonpersonal, ex flowers)

    I think they're all important for everyone though, to varying degrees.

    edit: quality time would be first, if you're counting that now.
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    i like to give:

    1) acts of service
    2) physical touch/quality time
    3) words of affirmation
    4) gifts


    to receive:

    1) quality time
    2) physical touch
    3) acts of service
    4) words of affirmation
    5) gifts
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    1) words of affirmation
    2) acts of service
    3) physical touch

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    I'm an ISTP, and I've had a really hard time typing my love language. I'm probably Quality time, even though some people don't really believe in it. I also speak Acts of service.
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    Quote Originally Posted by istpunk View Post
    Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch.

    For Quality Time, I think that's always in the top 3 of anyone's list so let's not include that.

    For me as an ISTP it's 1. Receiving Gifts and 2. Acts of Service and 3. Words of Affirmation

    I've come across ESTPs and they seem to be 1. Acts of Service 2. Words of Affirmation and 3. Physical Touch.

    not sure about ESFPs.

    ISFPs I think it seems to be 1. Acts of Service 2. Physical Touch 3. Receiving Gifts.

    For me, it's:

    1. Words of affirmation
    2. Physical touch
    3. Quality time

    Gifts and acts of service are great, but not quite as essential as the Big Three.

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    Is this supposed to be what I appreciate from others or how I express my love?

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    alicia91 Is this supposed to be what I appreciate from others or how I express my love?
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    It's supposed to be how you feel most loved (quality time--when someone focuses on you as an individual, truly listens to what you're saying, etc.; physical touch--when someone gives you a pat on the shoulder, a hug, an affirming head-pat, sex, etc.; words of affirmation--verbal expressions of your unique qualities and value as a person; acts of service--taking out the garbage, doing your laundry, helping you move, mowing the lawn, etc.; gifts--tokens, small and not so small tangible, material things given to you that show they thought about you and thought that you were worth their money to buy something or time to craft something for you).


    My strongest is definitely quality time to discuss ideas and thoughts and feelings and interpretations of events and philosophical issues. As a shadow SP, I find that touch isn't so important to me until I'm a little stressed, even with very small things to the point where I'm not even aware I'm stressed--I really relish touch when I'm stressed.
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    What, is this out of some book or something?
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