I've had people say to me that I'm very confident or that they wish they were as confident as me, or professors telling me I was an especially confident student, but I'm not totally arrogant, I don't think I'm better necessarily or even the best.
I just have confidence in who I am and what I think.
In fact I hate arrogant people a whole lot, and have had people tell me that one of the reasons that they like me..is because I'm HUMBLE.
I tend to have a pretty relative sense of proportion of myself to others; that is being confident in what I can do, but being humble about what I cannot. Isn't that normal?
I also tend mildly toward socialism (though not completely) in believing most people deserve a fair shake and are products of their circumstances, while still giving some credence or reward (though not over-much) to things like ambition and personal responsibility.
I see myself as having a good balance of the two. I'm thinking this is because of my parental figures, a grandfather who was a bizarre male feminist, holding women in traditional sexual roles in dresses and hairstyles and polite behavior, but also wanting to teach me math and lawn-mowing. Then his wife also outwardly having the gender role of long fingernails and jewelry who kept house and so forth, but being a very assertive, aggressive, independent woman.
So in my home life I was actually just very fortunate to get mixed messages about gender roles, and even my mother who is extremely feminine is also in other ways very confident and assertive...but she's also an ESFP.
I remember reading somewhere that Se doms (ESxPs) actually have "masculine" personalities, though a lot of women researched in MBTI are ESFPs.
Does Se give people a natural earthly grip of confidence, something about being "here and now" or knowing how to position your body to do things or maneuver the physical environment to your benefit give one a certain confidence or bravery despite experience?
I've noted that for example a lot of SP writers have been just ridiculously brave in living out id experiences and then writing about them, despite discouragement from elders or lack of money.
I'm actually not arrogant, and I've even suffered from social anxiety in my childhood past, but people overall tend to view me as confident. Even as a child I was placed in the front row at dance recitals, et al.
Is this Se? Is this the appearance of confidence, or bravery at any price?