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[SP] How much space do you need

Istbkleta

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to feel calm and relaxed.
Where do you get it?


For me it's been either when I stand in the middle of a big sports facility when it's empty OR in one of those huuuuge SUPERstores where you walk 30 min one direction to reach a wall.
Feels so calm. Like a weight has been lifted and my energy flows much smoother.

Anybody knows what I'm talking about or I should get myself checked?
 

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are you a slow walker? or am I just really fast, because it takes me 5 minutes. I need people to be on the otherside of the equator sometimes. ok exageration, but there are times i don't want to the existence of anyone
 

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just in my room with a closed door is enough for me.

it sounds like you might be somewhat claustrophobic?
 

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just in my room with a closed door is enough for me.

it sounds like you might be somewhat claustrophobic?

I can see this, but the problem is i'm scared that someone will bust down the door and start judging me. so yeah if i really really really think about it i prefer having the house to myself.
 
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Space wise, I like people at arms length away, which is close enough for intimate conversation, but not too close for comfort. When I'm feeling like it, I don't being closer than that to people, especially with people I really care about. But I do need a lot of space in leaving me alone to do what I want to do. Then when I'm done I'll gladly rejoin society once again :)
 
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I need a great deal of interpersonal space, contextually. Physically, as much or as little as it comes. I'm pretty indifferent in terms of emotional tension.


I do like epic-scale things, like being at Enchanted Rock, or staring at deep space photographs.
 

Istbkleta

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thing is, Se likes space.

I wanted to see if this is indeed true for Se people
and how everybody deals with it

Maybe I was wrong and it has nothing to do with Se
 

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It's not so much space but energy in a space. The open store thing - that weirds me out because everyone you see, you have an awkward pass-by. Ugh. I love crowds. I can be alone in a crowd. In a good way.
 

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Physically, not much. I can be about arms-wide against another person and still be calm. Any closer and I might feel agitated if I don't know you (if the situation calls for being that close, like a crowded bus, than no... no agitation I'll squeeze myself on a buss or something with a stranger.. if I have to.)

It is usually based on the scenario. Running water and or something like a campfire are some of the things I notice that gets me calm (can't create a campfire unless... camping though...) because I can get myself into a trance by listening/looking at them.

Running water is especially something that gets me calm.

in the middle of a big sports facility when it's empty

That just sounds freaky if there isn't another person there. A huge expanse of nothingness but rows and rows of empty seats does not sound very calming :D.

I mean, I don't have agoraphobia or anything but... freaky. It is like one of those horror films where you go through a hospital walkway (during night time) with little to no sound kind of freaky.
 

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I need a lot of space, especially when I need to decompress because I have internalized too much. Fortunately I live in the forest where no other neighbors can be seen. For a number of years I've been lucky enough to have a swing to sit on and look out at nature. I will also sit quietly on the groun in the forest away from all people. I also love to lie down and look up at the stars. When I realize how small I am, and that I am a part of a larger whole, a feeling of peace comes over me.
 

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I need a lot of space.

Like, if I'm sitting in a cramped spot with no where to move, I will start hyperventilating and I will fidget about my seat restlessly.
 

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Having my nose buried in a book is enough when ESFJ mom doesn't decide to interrupt and strike up conversation out of nowhere. Otherwise short walks by myself do the trick.
 

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I don't know about 'need'. But I do take a lot of space.
 

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thing is, Se likes space.

I wanted to see if this is indeed true for Se people
and how everybody deals with it

Maybe I was wrong and it has nothing to do with Se

I'm not sure what you mean. As I understand it, "Se" is shorthand for extraverted sensing, which is basically just describing a way to take in information via the senses externally. Feelings about the space between you and anyone/anything else seems to be more of a personal thing.

But to the answer the original question, basically none. I do like there to be space between me and someone/something that is off-putting, for instance if there's a loud buzzer going off I'd rather that not be next to my ear, or someone who smells bad right next to my nose, etc. But I have no inherent "need for space" at all.
 

Istbkleta

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I was left with the impression that Se is energy. It flows, you engage.

Was I wrong?
 

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Se and energy are not really related IMO, although you're vague enough that I'm not really sure what you mean.
 

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I thought needing space, to have alone time, depended on introvert/extrovert functions.

I need to get away from the demands of people in general. First thing in the morning, before anyone in my family wakes up, are my best time. Love to have 1/2 hour nature walks at this time.
At the end of the day, I'm usually beat unless I can have some alone time which usually doesn't happen until everyone is in bed.
 

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I moved to colorado and have a sliding door to a deck that looks out at the mountains. I need a lot of fuckin space.

Se dominants often suffer from some form of claustrophobia. Not so much a terrifying fear, just a discomfort with enclosed spaces. I actually cram myself in enclosed spaces as a sort of overcompensation "fuck you" to my own claustrophobia.
 
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