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    Quote Originally Posted by Mallow View Post
    Pretty much the same way you do.
    But when I was instructed on giving speeches, etc, I was told to imagine that everyone is just a pumpkin and you're talking to a field of pumpkins, or a bunch of ants.
    I suppose it was meant to calm anxiety but it never worked for me.

    When the attention of a group of people is on me I wilt like the wallflower that I am.
    If they wish to see me in full bloom they must do so out of the corners of their eyes when the group's attention is primarily focused on something else.

    I never got that either...like imagine they're all in their underwear or something..I don't know but when I look at my students or audience I see people as they are..meh must be the S in me. The only way I got better was in training for my job we would give presentations every day. Starting around 3 minutes long and the last one was infront of my divisions project specialists along with the rest of the class. So the only way to get better is do it over and over. Something that helps me is that when i'm training I always think that they want information and need this information in order to do their jobs so that makes me feel better.

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    I am shy.

    It sort of waxes and wanes, though. There have been periods in my life where I have been very outgoing. It all seems to depend on how often I get out there and socialize. There more I do it, the more outgoing I become, and the more I spend time by myself the more I mold back into shyness.

    Something that helps me is that when i'm training I always think that they want information and need this information in order to do their jobs so that makes me feel better.
    When I used to do public speaking for my job, this is the exact same thing that helped me, too. Like I am just the receptacle or whatever.
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    I used to be too shy to sing in recitals.
    I was told to imagine the audience dressed in nothing but their underwear. That didn't work. The thought of all of those people sitting in the audience, dressed in nothing but their drawers made me laugh really hard. I can't sing and laugh simultaneously.
    What did work for me was removing my glasses. The audience turned into a big faceless blur. Surely, I could sing to a blur. Nobody was making faces so it was quite all right.
    Eventually, though, I turned into a ham and started to like performing for an audience.


    Quote Originally Posted by Mallow View Post
    Pretty much the same way you do.
    But when I was instructed on giving speeches, etc, I was told to imagine that everyone is just a pumpkin and you're talking to a field of pumpkins, or a bunch of ants.
    I suppose it was meant to calm anxiety but it never worked for me.

    When the attention of a group of people is on me I wilt like the wallflower that I am.
    If they wish to see me in full bloom they must do so out of the corners of their eyes when the group's attention is primarily focused on something else.
    I'm a little teapot, short and stout. Here is my handle and here is my spout. Every time I steam up, I give a shout. Just tip me over and pour me out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Walking Tourist View Post
    I used to be too shy to sing in recitals.
    I was told to imagine the audience dressed in nothing but their underwear. That didn't work. The thought of all of those people sitting in the audience, dressed in nothing but their drawers made me laugh really hard. I can't sing and laugh simultaneously.
    What did work for me was removing my glasses. The audience turned into a big faceless blur. Surely, I could sing to a blur. Nobody was making faces so it was quite all right.
    Eventually, though, I turned into a ham and started to like performing for an audience.
    I used to be shy aswell and my piano teacher thought I was being disrespectful because I just wouldn't go and she fired me lol.

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    Oh my!
    Fired by a piano teacher!
    Do you have another one who understands about shy people???


    Quote Originally Posted by JRT View Post
    I used to be shy aswell and my piano teacher thought I was being disrespectful because I just wouldn't go and she fired me lol.
    I'm a little teapot, short and stout. Here is my handle and here is my spout. Every time I steam up, I give a shout. Just tip me over and pour me out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Walking Tourist View Post
    Oh my!
    Fired by a piano teacher!
    Do you have another one who understands about shy people???
    I know isn't that awful? And she would always come into this store I would work at and be fake nice and be like are you still playing piano?? And I told her No . I've stopped playing piano although you never know I may pick it up again one day

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    Quote Originally Posted by frenchkiss View Post
    I am shy.

    It sort of waxes and wanes, though. There have been periods in my life where I have been very outgoing. It all seems to depend on how often I get out there and socialize. There more I do it, the more outgoing I become, and the more I spend time by myself the more I mold back into shyness.
    Yeah I'm the same way. Shy if I'm alone for a while, but when I hang out with people more and more, not shy.

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    I'm shy. Today a nice teacher asked me if I'm shy. I answered with a convinced 'yes'. He said :
    "People who are shy, always think others are thinking things about them. when really other people don't care about other people other than themselves and so mostly think about themselves".
    Like the chaotic sentence? :p

    Anyways, the point is he made a point. And I'm sticking to it.
    Personal note: It's good to find peeps who understand & inspire. Btw, he is shy too, that's why he brought it up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skyline View Post
    "People who are shy, always think others are thinking things about them. when really other people don't care about other people other than themselves and so mostly think about themselves".
    Don't agree with the first part of that. I consider myself pretty shy in some situations but I'm well aware that most other people are too wrapped up in their own concerns to give a shit

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    Don't agree with the first part of that. I consider myself pretty shy in some situations but I'm well aware that most other people are too wrapped up in their own concerns to give a shit
    It's good you're always aware of that,then. I know what you mean, I don't always have to think people are thinking things about me when I am being shy, yet I can and sometimes do have the tendency to feel watched (& maybe judged) by people - and I don't get that when I'm Not being shy & self-aware together.
    ....So maybe it's the shyness + self awareness (+ Insecurity?) that can give the feeling of being thought of/"watched"/judged/...

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