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    I'm fairly socially awkward and reserved which leads me to shy away from people at times.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Quinlan View Post
    I'm fairly socially awkward and reserved which leads me to shy away from people at times.
    Same.

    I relax and open up a little if everyone around me is kind and friendly though.

    On the whole I'm very shy though. Not that that stops me. If underneath my layer of shyness is a desire to go to whatever social event then I go. I used to let my shyness rule me but the more I face my shyness head on and the more I'm around people the less shy I get and the better I feel.

    Slightly OT comment: I think that for those of us who are shy to an extreme (I used to be) that if we're at a point in which we aren't going to be comfortable around strangers any time soon that it's a good idea for us to accept it. One of my major problems when dealing with my shyness years ago was that I didn't accept it about myself. I rejected it. But later on I realized that I needed to accept it and it felt so much better. When I was in a situation that caused me to feel shy I would internally aknowledge my shyness and tell myself that it was ok for me to feel that way. That really helped.

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    As a child I was the epitome of shy. Now I'm more reserved, but usually only noticeably so in situations where I feel under pressure to adhere to some sort of social expectation (job interviews, meeting distant relatives, etc).

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    I'm shy when I meet people for the first time so I just smile and giggle a lot until I know them

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    I am always told that I am very quiet. Its a combination of shy, ISTP, and introvert. When I first meet you its that I am shy. After that if I have no interest in the topic at hand my ISTP personality just zones me out. If I am interested my introvertedness keeps me in my head about what is being said. So I really dont say much unless I know you, I like you, and we have common interests.

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    I am shy when I'm in a large group or when I meet people for the first time, too. I tend to giggle a lot as well. Once I get to know people, they probably wonder what happened to the quiet giggler. I can be a motormouth and I am not at all reserved. On the other hand, I am not a gregarious take-the-initiative in social situations type of person so I suppose that's what makes me an introvert.
    I'd love to have feedback.
    (I tend to pout when I feel ignored...)


    Quote Originally Posted by shortnsweet View Post
    I'm shy when I meet people for the first time so I just smile and giggle a lot until I know them

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    With individuals, once I get to know them a bit, no.
    With groups, always, there is too much happening for me to focus on and I'm not good at seeing a group of people as a kind of single entity like some people seem to be able to do, and relate in that way to it.

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    Tell me more about how you see a group.
    I see too many people, hear too much noise (especially when there are a lot of competing conversations... and I can't filter out background noise so I get overstimulated)... and it's just too chaotic for me.


    Quote Originally Posted by Mallow View Post
    With individuals, once I get to know them a bit, no.
    With groups, always, there is too much happening for me to focus on and I'm not good at seeing a group of people as a kind of single entity like some people seem to be able to do, and relate in that way to it.

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    Well my job doesn't really give me the option to be shy so i'd have to say no! But I hate going to clubs (unless there's good music) and parties and even some family events..but you put me in a training room and it's all eyes on me

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    Quote Originally Posted by Walking Tourist View Post
    Tell me more about how you see a group.
    I see too many people, hear too much noise (especially when there are a lot of competing conversations... and I can't filter out background noise so I get overstimulated)... and it's just too chaotic for me.
    Pretty much the same way you do.
    But when I was instructed on giving speeches, etc, I was told to imagine that everyone is just a pumpkin and you're talking to a field of pumpkins, or a bunch of ants.
    I suppose it was meant to calm anxiety but it never worked for me.

    When the attention of a group of people is on me I wilt like the wallflower that I am.
    If they wish to see me in full bloom they must do so out of the corners of their eyes when the group's attention is primarily focused on something else.

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