need to get this one out of my system once and for all. have a crush on an istp. guy is someone i sometimes work with. he went through a divorce about a year ago, still maybe somewhat wounded, maybe--not sure about that. first said we couldn't be friends--conflict of interest (because we work together somewhat), he's selfish, different places in life, etc. etc. then changed his mind and we can be friends but wants to make sure i understand that he's not looking for a relationship. fine. now we've kicked up communication, e-mail each other back and forth about every three days or so. been working on developing him as a friend for 9 mos before he finally says he's up for that. for six months it's not ok and then a seemingly sudden turnaround out of nowhere. went out for beers a few nights ago--fun, he was pretty open, very entertaining, etc. Then two nights later, i thought he wanted to be invited again to go with me and another friend and we went out again--I didn't invite him--the other friend (who I know he isn't interested in) did. He confides in me about work and i confide in him and I know a good amount about his personal life/he knows as much about mine. Is there any possibility here or am I in enfj la la land in wishing it was? He's so reserved/hard to get to know, but i know a fair amount about him, he has spoken about some emotional stuff (certainly in the smallest of increments)--does this sound like there is any possibility this could develop into anything else? We are both into adventure stuff/outdoors stuff. I know he likes me as a person a good amount because I don't think an istp would bother otherwise. Right? I thought I would be comfortable just being his friend, but don't know if I can fully--just like him more than that. Does it sound like there are any romantic possibilities here? I just don't know at all how an ISTP would act if they were interested in someone. Or became interested.