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    Senior Member Chaotic Harmony's Avatar
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    Default SPs, are we naturally flirty?

    I'm not sure if xSTPs would be naturally flirty or not...but I know the ISTP I dated was a flirt, even when he didn't mean to... And I know I've had people tell me I was flirting with someone when I really didn't mean to. So I'm wondering if SPs or maybe just xSFPs tend to come across as flirty, even if that's not our intentions...

    I find that I have to watch how I act and what I say around people because they often think I'm flirting. It's caused a lot of problems with my guy friends in the past. I've had two of them think that I was interested in them as more than friends...when in reality it was just fun to hang around them because we shared common interests. And I've had a few girlfriends/wives of male friends that didn't like me because they thought I was trying to steal their man.

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    Yeah I suppose Se has a lot to do with that. We take in a lot of sensory data, and for Dom Se people we tend to say what comes to mind.
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    I enjoy flirting. But yeah, I'm verrryyy cautious about when/where/who.
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    I never flirt, I'm just naturally this charming.
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    It's all about the approach leading to the conversation. SP's, especially STP's, have a certain look in the eye that sees everything and misses nothing. Some people find it intimidating, some find it intoxicating. It's our inherent curiosity that many people find attractive.

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    In general, SPs have a distinctive charm/charisma.
    Whether or not it is displayed externally is another thing.

    Some are repulsed by it, others are absolutely captivated.

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    I can't flirt without being asked out. So I don't flirt unless I am attracted to the person. Otherwise, I am now in that person's tractor beam and it's a hell of a time getting away.

    ~luck favors the ready~


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    I can be, but I need a sign first. I'm not "out there" like ESPs are.

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    not at ALL, unless I'm interested (and think they are), and then it's on full blast.
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    Yeah if I m interested- I can be very flirtatious..
    If I don't like you I'll be cold like a rock.

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