A lot of this I think correlates to FiSe, if I have a way of doing things and someone has a different way of doing it and it conflicts, then I may bring it up to see if I can refine what I'm doing in that moment. If it's not constructive and it's negative in nature, then I may perceive that as criticism.
If someone critiques something I'm doing, say my boss whom I care about a lot, and I know that they do it because they care, then that's fine. It's all about intentions.
Generally, yes. If I care for you and your opinion then I will value your feelings and opinions; but other than that I need a reason to look to care about others' opinions and feelings.In their own world - Because of their dominant Fi, ISFPs may value their feelings and opinions far more than others.
Mm maybe. I look for any kind of information really. I see what having an attitude like this does to people, and what it's done to me in a few very indirect way; and it's destructive at best. It made me less open minded when I was basically looking for confirmation bias (not intellectually or anything, in a more feeling oriented part of life) in the people realm: relationships, friendships, etc. I only wanted to see what already supported what I already believed about people. This got me into a lot of shit and I've taken on a more laid back, open minded POV toward people. I tend to be pretty judgmental of people that I perceive as being "normal" but in these past years I've realize no one is truly normal, that is just a jaded lens that they try to force on their own life and try to force others to see. I used to idealize situations with people a lot, but now I've taken on a more I guess objective, detached view along with my normal POV to try to be as clear as possible.The are prone to taking in information that only supports their personal opinions.
I think that the better way of looking at things is to try to get as much information as possible to formulate and refine your own opinions. It boils down to developing and honing Se while letting Ni be a thorn in it's side.
If this person is perceived as stupid and close minded, then yes, without a question. But I'm always trying to learn about people in general. I always try to figure out what makes others tick in terms of perspectives. Sometimes it just doesn't line up with what makes sense to me, and then I may judge a bit in that way.They can ignore the feelings, perspectives and point of view of others.
Yes. I used to be totally socially unaware, going back and reading old IMs and emails from when I was 13 makes me facepalm. Some of my social decisions were pretty bad. But in general I am pretty unaware, and I can take on a behavioral self check with the people that I perceive as mattering. (This is more about respecting their opinions and such, if anything with people that matter I believe in being myself to the fullest so that I'm not lying to them. I check to make sure that they are respecting me and that I am respecting them. Other's ideas are beautiful and have the potential to change you in the best ways possible, and that is always something that has to be considered.) But when it comes to the general public I just honestly don't give a shit, or with people who I don't honestly see as having much substance to me.They may also be unaware of how their behavior affects others. Taken to an extreme, this combination of behaviors can lead others to perceive them as unrealistic, selfish, or eccentric.
I'm pretty sure some people perceive me as selfish in that I try to do my own thing a lot, and I definitely am perceived as eccentric by almost everyone that I meet, that's become just a fact of life. I have no bad intentions, I just believe in fairness and having as little attached strings as possible in order to maintain said fairness; and sometimes when I try to enforce this I may appear selfish. But I do actually have other people in mind; think the golden rule.