I'm an INFP dating an ISTP boy right now. It's only been a month, and I'm not sure what to expect. Trying to take it day by day, because otherwise I think I'll go crazy. He doesn't make any promises or declarations. The most romantic he ever is is when he gives surprise gifts or does things for me, like cook dinner. On rare occasions he does compliment me, and when he does, it feels very special. I can really relate to everything people have been saying here about what it's like to be with an ISTP.
We see each other every weekend and each time, I do feel there is progress in terms of opening up to each other. Some days are better than others. I think we can go whole days without saying a word, just doing our own things and convening in the bedroom for "moments of togetherness".
He definitely doesn't pursue too hard either. I have a hard time telling whether he's into me or not. He's not very "engaging" or touchy-feely in public. It's strange because he's very masculine and I am very feminine, yet in many ways I feel I have to be the first to initiate things. Which makes it seem less genuine to me. Could an ISTP ever be the passionate "balcony-climbing" Romeo to anyone? Or is that simply not in their character?