been in a relationship with an ISTP 3 years, living with him for 2.
we are very similar and very different.
Agree completely...dated an infp. Very compatible, only reason I broke up is because I didn't fall in love with her and I am on a hunt looking for more then I had. So once I realize it won't end up in marriage I cut commitment. At this point anything that I believe leads to a feeling of commitment gets cut.
The right infp could very much lead to marriage. When our differences do butt heads its not generally things that matter or are important so it just blows over quickly and easily.
Take what I say with a grain of salt, because that's all it is compared to the ocean of complexity when it comes to actions and real life.
I’ve read in many threads that INFPs and ISTPs conflict and are not able appreciate each other. This has not been my experience; in fact I believe similarities arise because of JiPe despite the difference in both perceiving and judging functions.
I’ve not been in a relationship with an ISTP however I lived with one and it’s easily the smoothest friendship I’ve had. We worked really well together because she’s shrewd and can always identify holes in concrete systems (getting what she wanted without ramifications) whereas I took ideas and played with them, making them absurd. She was also shy, friendly and detached; she felt she couldn’t always charm people (on the rare occasion where someone – not something – obstructed her path) so I would help her out and connect with whomever so we could get what we wanted. It was always entertaining; like a game for us. With her I learnt how to recognize loopholes and use them to my advantage.
We’re calm, playful and light-hearted; we amused each other with our antics. She seemed to love the goofy FiNe humor whereas her sneaky ways entertained me, she could slide under any radar completely undetected and undeterred.
Similarities of JiPe types:
have no desire to lead or control others
have no desire to be led or controlled by others
need space and time alone and respect other people's needs for the same
quiet and reserved, and difficult to get to know well
do not believe in or follow rules and regulations
hate to work on routine things
The above characteristics are what both type value and neither treads on each other as they’re focused in different realms. In stress, we give each other space and time to cope (she became distant, I became angry) and reconnected once we were normal. Both types do not impose themselves on each other and therefore it’s easy to achieve mutual respect.
One of my best friends is an INFP. In fact I can think of another friend who is too. I get on well with them. I call them on their flowery bullshit ideas which at times I think is a little brutal but I think it helps then to see things more rationally. I like the easy going nature of them. They don't demand anything of me and they are so giving and positive. I've never thought about a relationship with them- in that way, perhaps the SP/NF thing would be too different. Can't really comment on that. But as friends yeah sure I like them.