I'm an ENFP and I am 25 and I am trying to connect with my little brother who is an ESTP. He'll be 20 next month.
I can tell that he feels like he doesn't fit in well with our family:
INTP older brother
and ENFP me
I want to get closer with him and try and talk with him and spend time with him but I can never really get it to happen. He never texts me back anymore and when we both are home he is just playing video games. But he is rarely ever home, he says he stays out of the house because he feels like he doesnt fit in.
Is it typical for an ESTP to feel this way? he seems so sensitive and insecure around us but so confident and arrogant with his friends. I know as a family we tend to make fun of each other and bring up embarrassing things, we just like to tease all the time. Sometimes he will get too embarrassed and leave the room. He says we pick on him too much. But it's all good fun, it's how our whole family works.
I know he can't keep up with the N-type stuff me and my older INTP brother talk about. And the only things I can really talk to him about is movies because we have similar tastes. But I cant ever get 2 hours of time with him to see a movie.
The only person I see him connect with is my ESFJ mother. Perhaps it's when he's in his shadow because he starts to use Fe and he will confide in her sometimes. But when he is being his trueself all the do is argue and scream at each other. But she is the only one that he will truly talk with...
Making plans is difficult because we are both Ps and just over book ourselves so I kinda wanna just let it happen ya know, not force it.