You ESFP females are the only "type" of girl that gets tired of me after liking me for a while and moves on before the reverse happens. I'm usually the one with the short attention span. You out-me me, and it drives me nuts.
Your energy and spontaneity is a match for my own, there is and never will be anything close to a fight between us, and that in-the-moment zest for life just draws me in. Add in some my-mom-is-an-ESFP Sigmund Freud theories, and I can't get enough of you.
Anyways, my question for you guys is what are your friendship relationships like with guys that you break it off from? Like either dump from a relationship or stop dating or stop hooking up with after extended periods of that. I don't mean messy breakups, or guys who are dicks that you just don't want to talk to anymore.
This ENFP (very strong E) girl decided to move on from our regular hook-ups and hang-outs (lasted for a couple months; not quite dating, because who does that in college anymore?) seemingly super abruptly. Now, a few weeks later, once she was sure I got the hint (I got cold-shouldered for a couple weeks), I don't really get her or how she acts. She acts like we are "closer" in a lot of ways than she ever did before. For example, she likes to publicaly hint at our prior involvement out loud, in a hey-I-value-you-more-because-of-it-since-we-shared-something-special-maybe kind of way, but the last thing she would ever want to do would be to talk about it directly. She also does stuff like cooks me dinner, volunteers first for things when I need a favor (we have a handful of mutual friends), etc, which wasn't the case before.
I guess what I don't get is how less became more in a different way, if that makes and sense at all?
Also, is this typical for how ESFPs move on for these kinds of things? I am usually good at understanding people right away, but you ESFP girls are still puzzling...
Anyways, thanks, and sorry that was so long; I tried to paint a complete picture...