Tonight I called my son into the kitchen while I was fixing dinner & talked to him about the current state of affairs. I told him that I know he felt that at times things were inequitable with regard to his school vs. play. I also wanted him to know there were a few things that have historically been true -- if I gave him computer time he didn't do his homework, if I told him to do his hw first, he rushed through & went to play his games. I also told him that I understood he wants independence & that I want that for him as well. So I asked him to propose what he felt like was a fair arrangement.
He said that he should have to stay of the pc until I get home (about 30 minutes after he does) & that he should have to do his homework first, let me look at it, & then have pc or TV time for the rest of the evening (except for his chores). I asked what should happen if he started rushing through his work & getting bad grades, & he responded that then he should lose computer priviledges for a week.
I said done.
I also told him I didn't like being the grade Nazi & that I didn't want to have to get on line every day & check up on him & his grades. He said he likes checking them every day himself. I said deal.
He's also much happier with school right now because he started Tech Ed, & the teacher hands them an assignment sheet & they go work on it however & at whatever pace they want.