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    I give you permission to post... after all, my response was unsolicited as well and I shared it anyways
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    Yes, please.
    Asking first was so kind and thoughtful.
    Hugs to you and happy new year!!!


    Quote Originally Posted by tinker683 View Post
    May an ISFJ response to this thread? This is in the SP section so I thought I'd ask first
    I'm a little teapot, short and stout. Here is my handle and here is my spout. Every time I steam up, I give a shout. Just tip me over and pour me out.

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    I'm actually pretty forward if I like someone. With my husband, after chatting with him at the gym for about three weeks I finally got the guts to ask if he wanted to actually hang out outside the gym (silly really, considering we were friends in HS).... We pretty well ended up chatting on the phone every night since then and it was for rather long periods of time. The first night he was like "What time is it, I should probably be getting to bed..." I told him I didn't want to tell him because he'd freak... It was close to 1 AM and we both had to get up early and go to work. That happened like every night since we exchanged phone numbers. Anyway, to get back on point... I tend to give a lot of compliments if I like someone. I also like to do things for them to help them out. Or, if I know that they like something I try and get it for them or make it for them (like cookies or whatever). Small stuff that is, I'd never run out and buy someone I liked an XBox or something that expensive just because they liked it.

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    Be attentive, be, be attentive!!!

    Then, the next, bolder step would be...

    Be suggestive, be, be suggestive!!!



    P.S. Mister Original poster, you're adorable.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SillySapienne View Post
    Be attentive, be, be attentive!!!
    +1 Attention is the most sincere and obvious expression of interest.
    "Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."

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    In general, smile and talk to them, pay attention to detail and knowing when to pee or get off the pot
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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    I give you permission to post... after all, my response was unsolicited as well and I shared it anyways
    Quote Originally Posted by Walking Tourist View Post
    Yes, please.
    Asking first was so kind and thoughtful.
    Hugs to you and happy new year!!!
    Thanks you two. I hope the both of you had a Happy New Year

    I'm a little embarrassed to admit but I've been so preoccupied with other things I forgot about this thread

    To answer the OP then as an Introverted Feeler...

    If I'm interested in you, I'll usually try to find myself in a position to where I can talk to you for a length of time. As we're chatting I'll usually (very politely) ask you some personal questions so that I can feel you out and see what sort of person you are as the whole time I'm taking notes in my head and letting my Si-memory-bank draw association with past people I've dealt with. This is to help me get a picture of who you are.

    Usually I'll make some off handed remark about your boyfriend at some point in the conversation. The reason for this is because while I'm only partially because I'm interested in knowing about your B/F, mostly I'm just fishing to see if you have a boyfriend. Whether or not you do determines how I behave toward henceforth.

    If you do, then I'll continue to be very nice and polite but strictly from a platonic position as I feel it's inappropriate to display interest in a woman who is quote-unquote "taken"

    If you don't though, then as I'm talking to you I'll slip in some compliments that may or may not be considered "flirting". I don't because the overtones that I try to put off are not overtly sexual. I might say things like,

    "I know you don't think very highly of your highlights, but I think they suit you very well. You look very beautiful the way you are."

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    "I can't say I'm surprised that you're taking [insert college class/training course/whatever thing you have to practice at]. You strike me as someone really talented (or very strong or very intelligent, depending on what was said)"

    or even

    "I can tell you why everyone likes you, you're a lot of fun to be around. I love talking to you."

    I actually try to be a little obvious as, to be frank, I'm not really good at ambiguity. How she responds determines how I proceed from there. If it seems like I'm making her uncomfortable or that she's not interested, then I'll back off. If she seems to respond well to it....then I'll keep going and see what happens

    When I do flirt with women, my goal is to make them feel better about themselves. My problem has been however that I have a hard time expressing myself sexually as I get really self-conscious and when I'm in a situation like that. Some women seem to respond well to that and...others don't.

    I don't know how much I different from my ISFP cousins but...there you go.
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    I don't.
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    I pay attention... at least I try to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SillySapienne View Post
    Be attentive, be, be attentive!!!

    Then, the next, bolder step would be...

    Be suggestive, be, be suggestive!!!



    P.S. Mister Original poster, you're adorable.
    a womens advice is something you can never trust when trying to deal with other women.

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