I'm in a serious relationship with an istp. He says he wants to have kids some day but I don't . I have one already and I couldn't go through all the dirty nappies and being under house arrest for another 18 years. It really sucks cos he is the love of my life. I'm screwed either way. If I let him go to start a family of his own I know I will be in pieces and I know for a fact that I will miss him for the rest of my life but if I have a kid with him I would only be doing it for him and the thoughts of my freedom being taken away from me terrifies me. I got pregnant in my early twenties so I had to sacrifice all those years. The only thing that kept me going in all that time was the thoughts of being free to do what I want in my thirties. I can't just turn around now at this stage when my kid is almost grown and be back to square one with a helpless baby at my beck and call.
I suppose what I'm hoping for is that he will change his mind. Sometimes people say they want something but when they get it they realise it isn't actually what they want at all. How likely do you think that could be the case? As an istp how badly do you want kids? On a scale of 1 to 10?