Interesting. I have two very good ESFP friends, Jack and Herman. Jack is more combative than me on my worst day. Herman is more laid back than me on my most chill day. These personality elements might very well be MBTI-type independent.
I totally agree with you RE "Se to the max!" so far as a huge commonality between ESFPs and ESTPs. It's silly!
IMHO, those are traits of specific individuals.
I for one, will admit my particular answer to a solution was wrong if sufficient evidence exists to prove it. And as far as being wrong in simpler terms, I don't quote anything as fact unless I've verified it extensively. It's part of being credible. In my line of work that is imperative.
Finally, being unable/unwilling to apologize is a personal flaw of an individual, and a person of ANY MBRTI-type can exhibit that.
I learned to apologize a LOOOONG time ago, and am thankful for it, as it made me a better person.
Have a great day!