I had two questions-my exmom-in-law and my ex husband are both ISTPs.
1. Do you find to concentrate on one sound-like a phone convo-you have to turn off other sounds around you? Do you find having multiple sounds around you creates tension and annoyance?
2. Can you explain why the below situation might be okay from the ISTP perspective?
Situation: I asked the ex-ISTP to give me and the kids a ride to the train station. He said sure. We are actually on really great terms, no fighting or anything. He shows up to pick us up in his new girlfriends car with his girlfriend. Then we had an oddly ackward drive to the train station. It wasnt as though the were going anywhere or he had to have her that...more like he just wanted her to come along???
Another time I asked him to take my son to my home to feed my dogs while I was on a business trip. He, instead, made the gf take my son over and the gf got to see my house, in all of its messy glory.
He also volunteers her for other things-like watching the kids or picking me up for the train station (I'll be taking a cab.)
The funny thing is that I would totally celebrate holidays with the gf around, go out to dinner, take her out for drinks, or spend social time without an issue and she seems nice and my kids like her and I am happy for him and her....but it seems like he is actually using her as a person to hand off tasks he is helping me with-thus leaving me in her debt, which makes me very uncomfortable, given it places a burden on her.
Can you shed light on what he might be thinking?