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    Default ISTP and friendship

    Maybe there is similar topic, so sorry, but I did not find it.
    One of my female friends could be ISTP. So, how would you describe your way of being friend. She is calm, confident. We are both introverts, so we are rather reserved in communication, but somehow she is one of my friends that makes me feel calm too. It's nice to chat without drama, trash talking, telling people what they should do etc.
    Is it common ISTP thing to be reserved, in a way that you don't need to open yourself too much or complaining?
    Any clue how to be better friend to ISTP?

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    Honestly just give them freedom and don't hover around them so much, and be there when they need/want you around. Also some kind of activity where you and the ISTP can get involved in something, rather than talking about gossip, negative feelings and getting too personal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aleta View Post
    Maybe there is similar topic, so sorry, but I did not find it.
    One of my female friends could be ISTP. So, how would you describe your way of being friend. She is calm, confident. We are both introverts, so we are rather reserved in communication, but somehow she is one of my friends that makes me feel calm too. It's nice to chat without drama, trash talking, telling people what they should do etc.
    Is it common ISTP thing to be reserved, in a way that you don't need to open yourself too much or complaining?
    Yes.
    Any clue how to be better friend to ISTP?
    Don't be a dick.
    Do fun stuff together.
    Offer help if needed, and follow through.
    That's about it, really.
    -end of thread-

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    *nods vigorously*

    This is how my ISTP and I have remained best buds without a single argument for the past 7 years. We do fun stuff together and only ever talk about personal stuff once in a blue moon, under the influence of alcohol, for the duration of about two minutes before moving on. If he wants to open up, he does, but people pry, poke, prod and all that, he just clams up and bolts. Not really any need for it anyway, since his actions always speak very plainly and clearly as to what his thoughts are!
    I'm male and over 30, FYI.
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    Honestly just give them freedom and don't hover around them so much, and be there when they need/want you around.
    Lol, this kind of sounds like : "serve" the ISTP.

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    Ask them to help you with a project they'll really be good at (and you can work on together), ask him/her hiking or camping, bring excellent food and beer. Don't expect to spend a lot of time braiding each other's hair, and you're good.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Moiety View Post
    Lol, this kind of sounds like : "serve" the ISTP.
    If you're going to be their friend, that's pretty much what it amounts to. The cool thing, though, is, once you're friends, they're generally willing to do the same for you, as long as you don't demand it. Involve, don't insist.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Randomnity View Post
    Don't be a dick.
    Do fun stuff together.
    Offer help if needed, and follow through.
    That's about it, really.
    Oh, and feed us. Free food is like kryptonite, as long as it's tasty.

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    ^^Agreed x1000. It'll probably even work if it's not all that tasty, as long as you don't force us to eat it.
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    Yeah, I'm generally quiet. I stay out of drama. If you want to get me involved in gossip and rumors, I'll stay away from you.

    If you want to be my friend, show me respect and be straight with me and entertain me. Do those, and I'll do the same for you best I can.
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