Parenting Skill and the ISFP Child!
Some Characteristics of the ISFP Child-Some Behaviors to Look For
* ISFP young ones will love to be held, snuggled, cuddled, all the things you want to do Mom and Dad!
* The ISFP baby really is a “cherub” smiling a lot early on
* The ISFP will like some alone time but will happily play with anyone who wants to most of the time
* These young ones will touch a lot; these are especially the ones that may bond with a “blanky”, a “binky” (whatever that may be)…very “sensory” children
* This “type” child will cry more than some others…especially if yelled at, responding to loud noises, if they think they are being criticized
* The ISFP child wants things to be soft, quiet, harmonious, friendly
* ISFPs are likely to play with kids smaller than themselves for security motivators
* ISFPs usually like music, painting, drawing, clay, etc….creative ones loving “sensory” pleasures…including bodily sensory pleasures…they will explore quicker than others
* The ISFP child is easy-going, flexible, compliant most of the time but will shy away from anger, bullying, yelling, etc.
* This child also need alone time
* The ISFP is the epitome of putting everything in the mouth…oh brother they love it….again sensory
* The ISFP may suck their thumbs…need a bottle for longer periods of time….just for sensory satisfaction and security than other types
* ISFPs will usually share their feeling, getting hurt easily, wanting friend, etc.
* ISFPs can excel athletically due to their sensing…but they really like the “group” team thing…want and need others….selectively
* ISFPs love animals and have a kinship with them of sorts
* For the adolescent ISFP school is fun…that may be about it….they may underachieve academically due to this
* The ISFP adolescent will learn better with a teacher they’ve bonded with in a more one-on-one environment
* They can be wonderful story tellers…natural grasp of the detailed and are dominantly “feeling” and emotional
* In High School the ISFP may have difficulty declaring independence…they bond with parents, siblings strongly
* The adolescent ISFP may struggle with long range planning, college, career, etc more than some others
* ISFPs have natural difficulty following/remembering rules, regulations, etc.
Regardless of Your Type Mom and Dad-Here Are Some Things You Can Do to Nurture the ISFP Child and Improve Parenting Skill
* Allow them to be creative early on…art, crayons, etc.
* Everything is “hands-on” with the ISFP, create situations where they can safely do that
* Hold them a lot, snuggle them a lot, carry them more than putting them in a stroller!!
* Speak in “low tones”, softly, gently to your ISFP little one
* Be very specific in the instructions you give to them…they are sensors after all
* Be supportive of their feelings let them express themselves as they will
* The ISFP will have their favorite “things”…allow them to do this
* Talk about feelings, allow them to express themselves safely with what they are feeling
* The ISFP will tend to take thing personally…try to talk about the fact you did not mean it personally
* As they become more self-confident create a safe atmosphere so they build in self-confidence
* Talk to them in terms of people, feelings more than things and events
In conclusion Mom or Dad, if you are ISF than most of the above seemed pretty natural; but, if you are not a Sensing Feeler (SF) maybe the above can better aid you as you develop you parenting skill. There are a lot of ISFP kids and people out there as the ISFP type makes up somewhere between 5-7% of everybody!