I know where I work I can be seen as a bitch and I have been told I'm mean and intimidating. I work with 98% NF's. Even so, I know that I can come off that way. Somehow when I state something it is taken as rude. When all I was trying to do was relay information. It is blunt and to the point. That's for sure.
The fact she is taking time to see if things are all right with you and she admits she can be a bit of a bitch show that she is trying. Would she even care if she was that much of a bitch? Just a thought.
Seriously. I have had similar discussions with co-workers who have had issues with me and I was trying to reach an understanding only to be met with a lot of attitude. Which honestly puzzled me.
I do pick on certain people. If I see that someone is consistently being lazy or making the same dumb mistakes over and over again then I will call a person out. It's done more to let them know they need to make strides to improve that area of work. Otherwise, with the way my job is set up, guess who's doing their work if they don't? Me. That's not gonna happen. Trust me. After the 10th and 11th time of nicely asking I only seem to get results when I bust someone's balls. Which is fine by me if that's what gets the job done.
I don't hold anyone else to a standard which I won't hold myself too. I'm tough but fair. IDK. Maybe she's a major bitch but maybe she's a bit misunderstood too.