ha ha...yeah the drama thing is associated with xSFPs and ENFPs both...and yep, totally, if someone is just showing me the right way to do something I would never bat an eyelash, but yeah if someone is talking down to me I'm more likely to argue with them, totally.
Let me ask you kind of a strange question; this might not make any sense to you at all but...I remember telling my sister that one of the things that I bonded with my ESFJ ex over were things like film and music, and how important that was to me, and she looked at me like I had three heads and said "those are just colors and sounds, and it has nothing to do with the way a person treats you." Well...duh...but those colors and sounds can make me feel understood in a non-verbal way that transcends other things sometimes, it's like a world we were able to share - of course my ex and I were both very physically affectionate and were best friends after we knew each other for a year, so um, yeah there is more to our relationship that common aesthetic interests...but anyhoo I noticed that my ethical value system is looser when choosing a mate, like even when I had spiritual beliefs I dated atheists, and my ex was so patently against politics that he never even registered to vote.
I'm going off on a tangent here...what I'm saying though is that I recently didn't date but did form a bond with someone (another SFJ) in a similar manner despite differing political beliefs, and he's a lifelong atheist while I'm more agnostic or non-religious-but-spiritual on any given day...the important thing was is that I felt comfortable with him, could talk to him, and it seemed like the fact that we liked so much of the same music was a hinge the friendship revolved around in the beginning. It made me feel understood.
I'm probably not making much sense, but it seems to me an NF might be more likely to be sure that they got emotionally involved with someone who was more likely to definitely share their political party or spiritual beliefs.
Anyway my question is: does this make any sense to you? Maybe not. Maybe I'm just rambling.