I was writing in another thread last night where a member was asking why there aren't more "S" types hanging out on this site (Bonfire section I think). I wrote a little bit in there about how some people get the impression my ESFP boyfriend is 'dumb' because he's not the best at written communication.
He writes things really fast, usually doesn't bother to capitalize unless he's doing work for his job(s) (he is a music teacher). It does take him awhile when he works on projects requiring compositions, etc. but he does just fine. Yeah, on sites like this or Facebook he just taps out whatever comes into his head. His family makes cracks that he 'talks smart but writes stupid'. He excels at verbal communication and I swear it's like he really does 'speak' through his instruments and music. He might write fast but he seriously gets his point across though!
Also, he's SUCH a happy, friendly, outgoing person and I really friggin' hate when people take this to mean he's stupid or naive. I really hate it (I actually get it too). He smiles ALL the time and he will asks questions like a little kid when he's really interested in someone or something (which he usually is!). I personally think it's awesome and I get really miffed at people who equate "Asking Many Questions" with "Is Obviously An Idiot". My BF takes it on the chin but I get so friggin' worked up sometimes when people condescend to him.
He also does that thing I think seems common with ESFPs where he will jump from subject to subject and wander off on all different tangents. I've told this story before on this site but once I asked him about a movie he'd just seen and he started going into it but went off in another direction. He didn't go back to the movie for the rest of that conversation and I just shrugged it off. Then, like a week later we were having food and straight out of left field he's like "Yeah, so that movie was pretty good" like he had literally just returned to that point in time and picked right back up, lol.
He does this a lot. I pick on him for it sometimes but I find it endearing. He really frustrates some people and I get mad at them sometimes because honestly, I've never seen him do that when it's something really IMPORTANT. Like if someone comes to him with a problem, or is having a hard time, he's SO attentive and focused. He only really trails off on benevolent stuff like movies, or sports, or stuff like that, you know?
This was kind of a rant but I just wanted to vent!! Wondered if anyone here relates?